The Night
New Member
FYI I'm new to this. I was talking to a girl at a bar tonight for 2 minutes and a male friend comes over and grabs her arm. I introduced myself and he says "I dont care." and pulls her away. How should I have handled this?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
interference by alpha male
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Scrumtulescence
Master Don Juan
Was the girl drunk?
I've been in kind of the same situation as the "male friend" sometimes. The girl's drunk stupid, flirtatious but already in a relationship, and would be rather...'upset' if she did anything once she found out sober, and the longer she gets into the conversation the harder it is to tell her to lay off.
If the girl was sober, though, and the guy friend seemed like the jealous type, you should have just told him to piss off and that you were having a conversation with her.
I've been in kind of the same situation as the "male friend" sometimes. The girl's drunk stupid, flirtatious but already in a relationship, and would be rather...'upset' if she did anything once she found out sober, and the longer she gets into the conversation the harder it is to tell her to lay off.
If the girl was sober, though, and the guy friend seemed like the jealous type, you should have just told him to piss off and that you were having a conversation with her.
The Night
New Member
Good call scrumtulescence, she was drunk.
The Night
New Member
What is TD??
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Badmannaz
Master Don Juan
DUHHHHHH TD?!!!
TAP DANCING!!!!
Jay Reimenschneider
Don Juan
Re: AMOG
expand!!!!
looks like you're onto something here but you didn't write enough for me to learn anything.
expand!!!!
reyalp
Master Don Juan
i believe you mean expound.
ethnomethodologist
Master Don Juan
LOLZ, shezzler just hijacked your thread... now your going to get your ass beat for trying to pickup a drunk girl who doesn't know any better
AMOG is simple, do a search on it retard, learn how to do a little bit of work. Stop being lazy and learn something. We're not always going to be around to help you out...
Jay(attiqaaluk) you are pretty stupid, and you sound gay. Please smarten up, stop trying to seem cool, start learning something. Don't ask stupid questions anymore, and stop making comments that a 5 year old would laugh at.
TD is Tyler durden
Scrumtulesence, you are right, don't game drunk girls... don't game drunk, period. It's not a level to measure, it is a level of how lucky you can get, and nobody is here to learn how to get lucky, because it is impossible to teach.
The night, you should have walked away from her, as soon as you realized she was piss faced. You should have looked at her, and called the bouncer, or given the guy props for taking care of her, if he really was a friend.
The thing is "a male friend" coming over and grabbing her arm... I don't understand... is that your friend? Or hers?
AMOG is simple, do a search on it retard, learn how to do a little bit of work. Stop being lazy and learn something. We're not always going to be around to help you out...
Jay(attiqaaluk) you are pretty stupid, and you sound gay. Please smarten up, stop trying to seem cool, start learning something. Don't ask stupid questions anymore, and stop making comments that a 5 year old would laugh at.
TD is Tyler durden
Scrumtulesence, you are right, don't game drunk girls... don't game drunk, period. It's not a level to measure, it is a level of how lucky you can get, and nobody is here to learn how to get lucky, because it is impossible to teach.
The night, you should have walked away from her, as soon as you realized she was piss faced. You should have looked at her, and called the bouncer, or given the guy props for taking care of her, if he really was a friend.
The thing is "a male friend" coming over and grabbing her arm... I don't understand... is that your friend? Or hers?
Jay Reimenschneider
Don Juan
Are you having a bad night man?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.