"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Interesting class dynamic ~ suggestions welcome

CantTouchMyStyle

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I am taking a summer film class at the moment and there is one chick I am attracted to.

Unfortunately, she is in the class with two guy friends. Pretty big obstacles since she is obviously very flirtatious with one of them / the other is ugly. The one guy she flirts with has a girlfriend. So, she should be available.

Anyways, we worked in a group and I was smart enough to joke around and become friendly with the only potential obstacle. He likes me which is pretty important. But, it's still a pretty interesting dynamic since it will be very hard to isolate the chick with the two c*ck blocks present. They go on breaks together, drive there together, etc.

I am rather good with classroom game, but I haven't experienced anything like this dynamic.

Suggestions welcome ~
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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PapiChulo

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Sneaky, aren't we? How about not beating around the bush and asking her out. Otherwise this type of thing will land you a nice ticket to Friendsville, population you, that guy, and the chick. Assuming you did the attraction part with her, and flirted with her, not just with the guy, while she flirted with him. Also dint use others to get to the woman, it will be exposed sooner or later.
 

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look for the positive rather than the negative in this (or any) situation

the other two dudes aren't necessarily a problem, in fact they can actually help you

you don't have to work on ways to get them out the picture, do stuff with them in the picture! their presence shouldn't restrict you, use them - you can be funny, witty, interesting, all these things with them there too. If the girl likes you, she'll like you regardless of whether they are there or not, and it can work in your favour (you are less likely to be cloying or boring if there are others present!). also showing your good quality when there are others around, a) generally increases your popularity anyway (a good look!),

and b) when you are not there, they will talk about you - now they might say "that guy is cool", this is good. and they might see you as a threat and say "that guy is a ****" - this can be good too, as long as it is because they actually see you as a threat and not because you actually are acting like a **** (she'll see through them, esp if you've all being getting on well and they are just trying to downplay your value to her)
 

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PapiChulo said:
Sneaky, aren't we? How about not beating around the bush and asking her out. Otherwise this type of thing will land you a nice ticket to Friendsville, population you, that guy, and the chick. Assuming you did the attraction part with her, and flirted with her, not just with the guy, while she flirted with him. Also dint use others to get to the woman, it will be exposed sooner or later.
WTF is this nonsense? Sneaky?

The class just started. I will build a small amount of rapport before asking her out. She was flirting with me in the class, but is also very flirtatious/friendly with her guy friend in the class.

And you're insane if you don't think I am going to use this other guy as a pawn.
 

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mahoney said:
look for the positive rather than the negative in this (or any) situation

the other two dudes aren't necessarily a problem, in fact they can actually help you

you don't have to work on ways to get them out the picture, do stuff with them in the picture! their presence shouldn't restrict you, use them - you can be funny, witty, interesting, all these things with them there too. If the girl likes you, she'll like you regardless of whether they are there or not, and it can work in your favour (you are less likely to be cloying or boring if there are others present!). also showing your good quality when there are others around, a) generally increases your popularity anyway (a good look!),

and b) when you are not there, they will talk about you - now they might say "that guy is cool", this is good. and they might see you as a threat and say "that guy is a ****" - this can be good too, as long as it is because they actually see you as a threat and not because you actually are acting like a **** (she'll see through them, esp if you've all being getting on well and they are just trying to downplay your value to her)
This is a good post, ty sir.

And is my entire line of thinking.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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