"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Interesting class dynamic ~ suggestions welcome

CantTouchMyStyle

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I am taking a summer film class at the moment and there is one chick I am attracted to.

Unfortunately, she is in the class with two guy friends. Pretty big obstacles since she is obviously very flirtatious with one of them / the other is ugly. The one guy she flirts with has a girlfriend. So, she should be available.

Anyways, we worked in a group and I was smart enough to joke around and become friendly with the only potential obstacle. He likes me which is pretty important. But, it's still a pretty interesting dynamic since it will be very hard to isolate the chick with the two c*ck blocks present. They go on breaks together, drive there together, etc.

I am rather good with classroom game, but I haven't experienced anything like this dynamic.

Suggestions welcome ~
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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PapiChulo

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Sneaky, aren't we? How about not beating around the bush and asking her out. Otherwise this type of thing will land you a nice ticket to Friendsville, population you, that guy, and the chick. Assuming you did the attraction part with her, and flirted with her, not just with the guy, while she flirted with him. Also dint use others to get to the woman, it will be exposed sooner or later.
 

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look for the positive rather than the negative in this (or any) situation

the other two dudes aren't necessarily a problem, in fact they can actually help you

you don't have to work on ways to get them out the picture, do stuff with them in the picture! their presence shouldn't restrict you, use them - you can be funny, witty, interesting, all these things with them there too. If the girl likes you, she'll like you regardless of whether they are there or not, and it can work in your favour (you are less likely to be cloying or boring if there are others present!). also showing your good quality when there are others around, a) generally increases your popularity anyway (a good look!),

and b) when you are not there, they will talk about you - now they might say "that guy is cool", this is good. and they might see you as a threat and say "that guy is a ****" - this can be good too, as long as it is because they actually see you as a threat and not because you actually are acting like a **** (she'll see through them, esp if you've all being getting on well and they are just trying to downplay your value to her)
 

CantTouchMyStyle

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PapiChulo said:
Sneaky, aren't we? How about not beating around the bush and asking her out. Otherwise this type of thing will land you a nice ticket to Friendsville, population you, that guy, and the chick. Assuming you did the attraction part with her, and flirted with her, not just with the guy, while she flirted with him. Also dint use others to get to the woman, it will be exposed sooner or later.
WTF is this nonsense? Sneaky?

The class just started. I will build a small amount of rapport before asking her out. She was flirting with me in the class, but is also very flirtatious/friendly with her guy friend in the class.

And you're insane if you don't think I am going to use this other guy as a pawn.
 

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mahoney said:
look for the positive rather than the negative in this (or any) situation

the other two dudes aren't necessarily a problem, in fact they can actually help you

you don't have to work on ways to get them out the picture, do stuff with them in the picture! their presence shouldn't restrict you, use them - you can be funny, witty, interesting, all these things with them there too. If the girl likes you, she'll like you regardless of whether they are there or not, and it can work in your favour (you are less likely to be cloying or boring if there are others present!). also showing your good quality when there are others around, a) generally increases your popularity anyway (a good look!),

and b) when you are not there, they will talk about you - now they might say "that guy is cool", this is good. and they might see you as a threat and say "that guy is a ****" - this can be good too, as long as it is because they actually see you as a threat and not because you actually are acting like a **** (she'll see through them, esp if you've all being getting on well and they are just trying to downplay your value to her)
This is a good post, ty sir.

And is my entire line of thinking.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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