"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Interesting! Are you chubby? - Good news!
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Master Bates
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In other words, muscular guys are the hottest, and chubby guys are the ugliest and therefore assumed to be the least likely to have other options with which to cheat in a relationship.
Interceptor
Master Don Juan
:crackup: Good one.
That's just what I was thinking.
That's just what I was thinking.
izza
Master Don Juan
The real good news about being chubby is that it's a fantastic, fantastic opportunity to pick up women using personality alone.Obsidian said:
If you resemble a Greek god, picking up women is easy but requires less skill.
If you're decent looking, picking up women requires more personality.
If you're chubby, you've got to be the most interesting, loving - I dare say vulnerable - person in the room, or else your chances are limited. I have seen fat guys with 10 hot women, I have seen it done.
Being chubby is a great chance to strengthen the "personality muscle." And honestly, picking up women when I look bad is way more fun, and way more rewarding. It's a compliment not to how I look, but to ME.
We are bombarded with messages like "Look great, get women." "Dress in these clothes, get women." What I'm saying goes against several, media inundated fashion industries. Very, very few people realize the power of what I'm saying.
Izza
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
izza
Master Don Juan
YOU should do what you like best to doSamMalone said:
Personally, I exercise because I feel like sh!t otherwise lol. But actually, when I'm picking up women, I prefer to feel like I look terrible (I'm wearing a patched t-shirt, beatup walking shoes, and hole-ful khakis right now). It's pretty counterintuitive, but maybe you can understand why, at least on a rational level, from my post above.
I just love the challenge... because women at first are like "ugh" but then I'm just so damn interesting...
I am in a messed up place in my life right now, though. I'm just looking for friendship. I keep going out with women, and telling them oops let's be friends, the time isn't right.
My parents getting divorced is too much head-fvck for women, you know?
Izza