Pierce Manhammer
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Information overload has become an addiction.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Edit ruthlessly; less is more. That is what I was constantly taught coming up as a writer (I hold an English degree among others with a creative writing emphasis).As a writer, this resonated with me:
Writing makes you curious, but in my opinion the curiosity is restricted to the useful information that expands your mind and your writing, not just merely fills your mind with tripe.
Agreed. A lot of people who think they're good writers are verbose and over-complicate things.Edit ruthlessly; less is more. That is what I was constantly taught coming up as a writer (I hold an English degree among others with a creative writing emphasis).
Granted I am at times a bit lax around here, but good writing truly is becoming a lost art.
Being able to explain something in a concise and clear manner is also a great way to determine if someone actually understands the subject tooAgreed. A lot of people who think they're good writers are verbose and over-complicate things.
But actually good writing is about being concise.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Hi Muscles,This is me 100%
Hi Jay,Being able to explain something in a concise and clear manner is also a great way to determine if someone actually understands the subject too
Both The Woke-genuflecting MSM and The Manosphere thrive off of this. Only difference between the two... The former trades in endlessly bemoaning the evils of an alleged White CIS Capitalistic Patriarchy, while the latter devotes almost all of it's energy towards lamenting our oppression at the hands of a Consumerist Gynocentric Social Order we're told lurks around every corner![]()
Information overload has become an addiction.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Yeah I'm sure most people get their "news" from Reddit, Youtube, instagram, curated feeds, basically electronic sycophants.The biggest issue I see these days is people are getting their news from media outlets, because they no longer trust them. The preponderance of places online which are specific to certain ways of thing are echo chambers and a large number people get their information from these sources which serve to only reinforce what they already believe etc
We’ve become intellectually lazy and do not challenge ourselves as much as we used to reading and investigating sources that are not aligned with our preconceived thoughts.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
The biggest issue I see these days is people are not getting their news from media outlets, because they no longer trust them. The preponderance of places online which are specific to certain ways of thinking are echo chambers and a large number people get their information from these sources which serve to only reinforce what they already believe etc
We’ve become intellectually lazy and do not challenge ourselves as much as we used to reading and investigating sources that are not aligned with our preconceived thoughts.
Case in point - the world's worst acclaimed writer (David Foster Wallace) shot himself because he couldn't figure out how to shut up.Agreed. A lot of people who think they're good writers are verbose and over-complicate things.
But actually good writing is about being concise.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.