"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Intellectual Obesity

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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As a writer, this resonated with me:



Writing makes you curious, but in my opinion the curiosity is restricted to the useful information that expands your mind and your writing, not just merely fills your mind with tripe.
Edit ruthlessly; less is more. That is what I was constantly taught coming up as a writer (I hold an English degree among others with a creative writing emphasis).

Granted I am at times a bit lax around here, but good writing truly is becoming a lost art.
 

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Edit ruthlessly; less is more. That is what I was constantly taught coming up as a writer (I hold an English degree among others with a creative writing emphasis).

Granted I am at times a bit lax around here, but good writing truly is becoming a lost art.
Agreed. A lot of people who think they're good writers are verbose and over-complicate things.

But actually good writing is about being concise.
 

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This is what happens when you read too much. You think you're okay, but that one last knowledge nugget will get you every time.

 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Being able to explain something in a concise and clear manner is also a great way to determine if someone actually understands the subject too
Hi Jay,
Sure,but we write to pursuade,and the more subtly that is done the better!
 

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Hi Billy,
"This is what happens when you read too much"....One only reads "too" much,when ones interests verge on the obsessive....You need sift through a lot of paydirt to find the elusive nugget you speak of.
 

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Hi Muscles,
Take a compliment,the expansion of your knowledge,your reading extensively,makes you more interesting,a valuable aspect of being charismatic LOL....Being dull,boring is a burden/load some carry.
 

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Information overload has become an addiction.
Both The Woke-genuflecting MSM and The Manosphere thrive off of this. Only difference between the two... The former trades in endlessly bemoaning the evils of an alleged White CIS Capitalistic Patriarchy, while the latter devotes almost all of it's energy towards lamenting our oppression at the hands of a Consumerist Gynocentric Social Order we're told lurks around every corner

Expecting either of those two to produce much in the way of concrete, tangible strategies for easing the material burdens of those who are in the greatest need is more futile than expecting The SFPD to finally arrest and successfully prosecute The Zodiac Killer anytime soon
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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The problem isn't just in the case of obvious stuff like tiktok/reels/shorts brain rot but this issue still occurs even if you're consuming lots of "high quality" content like various podcasts or whatever all day. It's just too much stimulation for your brain and you can't process it all and it gets overloaded. I have to imagine that source amnesia is plagueing a ton of people where they have some strange belief/opinion and they can't even remember where they got it from or they just hear some thing that reaffirms their belief and instead of taking in the data points they just say "see, I'm right" and don't make any conscious effort to internalize it.
 

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The biggest issue I see these days is people are not getting their news from media outlets, because they no longer trust them. The preponderance of places online which are specific to certain ways of thinking are echo chambers and a large number people get their information from these sources which serve to only reinforce what they already believe etc

We’ve become intellectually lazy and do not challenge ourselves as much as we used to reading and investigating sources that are not aligned with our preconceived thoughts.
 

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Keep your work emails short and concise, get promoted.

Keep your texts short and concise, get laid.

My 8-second course on being successful with women available for $5 a month
 

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The biggest issue I see these days is people are getting their news from media outlets, because they no longer trust them. The preponderance of places online which are specific to certain ways of thing are echo chambers and a large number people get their information from these sources which serve to only reinforce what they already believe etc

We’ve become intellectually lazy and do not challenge ourselves as much as we used to reading and investigating sources that are not aligned with our preconceived thoughts.
Yeah I'm sure most people get their "news" from Reddit, Youtube, instagram, curated feeds, basically electronic sycophants.

Personally I don't even try to have a "balanced" information diet anymore, I just avoid information in general. To this day I know absolutely nothing about the war in Ukraine nor do I truly know a damn thing about the entire israel/palestine conflict - it's just a waste of brain cells.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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The biggest issue I see these days is people are not getting their news from media outlets, because they no longer trust them. The preponderance of places online which are specific to certain ways of thinking are echo chambers and a large number people get their information from these sources which serve to only reinforce what they already believe etc

We’ve become intellectually lazy and do not challenge ourselves as much as we used to reading and investigating sources that are not aligned with our preconceived thoughts.

Another way of thinking about all of this https://techliberation.com/2010/01/...t-debate-over-technology’s-impact-on-society/
 

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Agreed. A lot of people who think they're good writers are verbose and over-complicate things.

But actually good writing is about being concise.
Case in point - the world's worst acclaimed writer (David Foster Wallace) shot himself because he couldn't figure out how to shut up.

Keeping things simple may just save your life.
 

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I try to read either books on the subject or long form magazine-type articles. Most news sites are looking for rage clicks and they frequently don't confirm what they report.
 

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So, to avoid "intellectual obesity", be intentional about what you consume online, prioritize what's valuable, and take breaks from info overload. Clear communication is key, and sometimes, simple conversations lead to profound insights.
 

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I recently did 3 days of no internet no phone texts emails or electronics. It was a blissful time away. I plan to have another 3 days away soon.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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