Pierce Manhammer
Moderator
Information overload has become an addiction.
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Edit ruthlessly; less is more. That is what I was constantly taught coming up as a writer (I hold an English degree among others with a creative writing emphasis).As a writer, this resonated with me:
Writing makes you curious, but in my opinion the curiosity is restricted to the useful information that expands your mind and your writing, not just merely fills your mind with tripe.
Agreed. A lot of people who think they're good writers are verbose and over-complicate things.Edit ruthlessly; less is more. That is what I was constantly taught coming up as a writer (I hold an English degree among others with a creative writing emphasis).
Granted I am at times a bit lax around here, but good writing truly is becoming a lost art.
Being able to explain something in a concise and clear manner is also a great way to determine if someone actually understands the subject tooAgreed. A lot of people who think they're good writers are verbose and over-complicate things.
But actually good writing is about being concise.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Hi Muscles,This is me 100%
Hi Jay,Being able to explain something in a concise and clear manner is also a great way to determine if someone actually understands the subject too
Both The Woke-genuflecting MSM and The Manosphere thrive off of this. Only difference between the two... The former trades in endlessly bemoaning the evils of an alleged White CIS Capitalistic Patriarchy, while the latter devotes almost all of it's energy towards lamenting our oppression at the hands of a Consumerist Gynocentric Social Order we're told lurks around every corner![]()
Information overload has become an addiction.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Yeah I'm sure most people get their "news" from Reddit, Youtube, instagram, curated feeds, basically electronic sycophants.The biggest issue I see these days is people are getting their news from media outlets, because they no longer trust them. The preponderance of places online which are specific to certain ways of thing are echo chambers and a large number people get their information from these sources which serve to only reinforce what they already believe etc
We’ve become intellectually lazy and do not challenge ourselves as much as we used to reading and investigating sources that are not aligned with our preconceived thoughts.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
The biggest issue I see these days is people are not getting their news from media outlets, because they no longer trust them. The preponderance of places online which are specific to certain ways of thinking are echo chambers and a large number people get their information from these sources which serve to only reinforce what they already believe etc
We’ve become intellectually lazy and do not challenge ourselves as much as we used to reading and investigating sources that are not aligned with our preconceived thoughts.
Case in point - the world's worst acclaimed writer (David Foster Wallace) shot himself because he couldn't figure out how to shut up.Agreed. A lot of people who think they're good writers are verbose and over-complicate things.
But actually good writing is about being concise.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.