"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What do you think of it?

Ok to use a little? Never? Same rules as applied to phones?

I always add my friends, but I'm always sketchy with girls. In fact, I have only added one, but she never logs in.

I'm now not too sure how I should handle email addresses. I'd like to add them, but a part always tells me its the wrong move.

What do you do?

--iMat
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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You don't.

Aim is not a Don Juans tool in any way, shape, or form.

I'm really getting tired of people trying to play it off as a "crutch". Its not, its a freiking wheel chair.


Aim != Don Juan
 

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Use it if you want to. GOddamnit, wanna know how to brush your teeth the don juan way???? I know how...:rolleyes:
 

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short answer. No.

Just end up in the friendship zone. end of story.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I've found that it's harder to be ****y and funny online than on the phone or in person.
 

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Originally posted by jonny football hero
short answer. No.

Just end up in the friendship zone. end of story.
that's an interesting take. recently I've been honing my c&f on AIM regularly. I was recently addicted to meeting girls online cause I was getting so good.....unfortunately, since theres so little pressure AND you have time to think about what you say before you say it, real life still needs work.
 

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Originally posted by rhsarrow17
that's an interesting take. recently I've been honing my c&f on AIM regularly. I was recently addicted to meeting girls online cause I was getting so good.....unfortunately, since theres so little pressure AND you have time to think about what you say before you say it, real life still needs work.
You are the example I've been waiting for!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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lmao

well just so you know, I dont meet girls online anymore as of about 2 weeks ago.

I know exactly what you meant by example. I was asking if you wanted me to elaborate on this online stuff for the people who are CURRENTLY wasting their time with it.
 

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do don juans sit down or stand up to pee?
 

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I pee when I poop.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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IM sucks. I can't be myself on it. It has to be real life for me or nadda.
 

LikRetsam

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Originally posted by Porky
do don juans sit down or stand up to pee?
I personnally pee on my knees. That's the pimp way to do it.

Unless you can aim.


As to the question at hand, use whatever tool you want. AIM is the worse because you have NO information about the person. Phone is close behind when you only have the tone of voice. Face to face is always best because you have a maximum of information.
 

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well..there's always this problem about having the hots for girls with tyrants for parents... HS girls sumtimes have parents so strict if u wanna meet them out u can only do so like once or twice fortnightly (at least this applies to certain girls i know). although it sux but sumtimes..IM and phones are probably the few ways u have to keep in touch with these girls
 
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