"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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iMat

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What do you think of it?

Ok to use a little? Never? Same rules as applied to phones?

I always add my friends, but I'm always sketchy with girls. In fact, I have only added one, but she never logs in.

I'm now not too sure how I should handle email addresses. I'd like to add them, but a part always tells me its the wrong move.

What do you do?

--iMat
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Vincent

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You don't.

Aim is not a Don Juans tool in any way, shape, or form.

I'm really getting tired of people trying to play it off as a "crutch". Its not, its a freiking wheel chair.


Aim != Don Juan
 

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Use it if you want to. GOddamnit, wanna know how to brush your teeth the don juan way???? I know how...:rolleyes:
 

jonny football hero

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short answer. No.

Just end up in the friendship zone. end of story.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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idiot_boyfriend

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I've found that it's harder to be ****y and funny online than on the phone or in person.
 

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Originally posted by jonny football hero
short answer. No.

Just end up in the friendship zone. end of story.
that's an interesting take. recently I've been honing my c&f on AIM regularly. I was recently addicted to meeting girls online cause I was getting so good.....unfortunately, since theres so little pressure AND you have time to think about what you say before you say it, real life still needs work.
 

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Originally posted by rhsarrow17
that's an interesting take. recently I've been honing my c&f on AIM regularly. I was recently addicted to meeting girls online cause I was getting so good.....unfortunately, since theres so little pressure AND you have time to think about what you say before you say it, real life still needs work.
You are the example I've been waiting for!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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lmao

well just so you know, I dont meet girls online anymore as of about 2 weeks ago.

I know exactly what you meant by example. I was asking if you wanted me to elaborate on this online stuff for the people who are CURRENTLY wasting their time with it.
 

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do don juans sit down or stand up to pee?
 

Vincent

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I pee when I poop.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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IM sucks. I can't be myself on it. It has to be real life for me or nadda.
 

LikRetsam

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Originally posted by Porky
do don juans sit down or stand up to pee?
I personnally pee on my knees. That's the pimp way to do it.

Unless you can aim.


As to the question at hand, use whatever tool you want. AIM is the worse because you have NO information about the person. Phone is close behind when you only have the tone of voice. Face to face is always best because you have a maximum of information.
 

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well..there's always this problem about having the hots for girls with tyrants for parents... HS girls sumtimes have parents so strict if u wanna meet them out u can only do so like once or twice fortnightly (at least this applies to certain girls i know). although it sux but sumtimes..IM and phones are probably the few ways u have to keep in touch with these girls
 
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