forcerecon01
Master Don Juan
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I have insomnia and I wanted to know if there is a medication out there that helps me get sleep? I need something stronger than melatonin over the counter.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
cool thanks man! I used to count numbers too but that didn't really work like I wanted.Aside from the medication side of things, other tips that I've read over the years are:
Use your bed for Sleep and Sex only, ie: no reading in bed, or watching TV.
Darken your room as best you can. Most relevant if you have to sleep during the day, if you are a shift worker like me. I've tried face masks before (ie: what people wear on planes), but I didn't like the feeling.
Same with sound, try earplugs? I didn't like the feeling, same with the face mask.
Keep your room as cool as possible, ie: air-con or fans. It is harder to sleep if you are hot.
Cease your electronic screen time at least an hour before bed.
nice man thanks. How many hours a night do you get sleep if you ever do?Oh, one more tip, as they keep popping into my head... Magnesium Supplements are also meant to help with sleep:
Using Magnesium for Better Sleep | Sleep Foundation
I also take Valerian Root tablets.
Valerian (herb) - Wikipedia
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Wow thats the same with me . Broken sleep sucks. I love caffeine. a lot too. Not sure though if it hurts my sleep at all.I probably average around 4 - 6 hours per sleep, but that is broken, I wake up every hour or so. I never really ever get a long unbroken sleep.
If I was working a day shift, I try and also limit my caffeine intake from say, 3pm.
No.I have insomnia and I wanted to know if there is a medication out there that helps me get sleep? I need something stronger than melatonin over the counter.
I don't believe I have sleep apnea. I breathe alright.Good points. My Father, who recently passed, had sleep apnea, and had to wear that breathing machine at night. I suspect that I may have it it as well, due to the fact that over the past few years, I've woken up during the night, gasping for breath.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.