buckwheat18
Don Juan
Sorry i'm not into "illegal" drugsBuckwheat, whatever it is you are smoking, send some my way.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Sorry i'm not into "illegal" drugsBuckwheat, whatever it is you are smoking, send some my way.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Again... guns blazing. First... we continue to go back to these assumptions (terrible things those are). I have engaged in four relationships to be exact... all four of them have lasted for at least a year or more. Moreover (moreso directed to the Mrs. in this conversation) I have been engaged once (a lot of people did not know that) and considered marrying twice (did not know that either). I decided against those things simply because I had yet to live. I did not say just leave him for someone else Mrs. (you continue to misinterpret me) I have not denied the fact that he is special to you (we have all been there) all I ways suggesting is that you live a little... you would be surprised what you find out.No wonder you guys suck at relationships. The idea that she is in love with him is a completely foreign concept to you nutjobs, because you guys are so brainwashed by this site. If you would quit being so existential and open your mind you might see her point of view.
actually that wasnt me, that was someone else.Originally posted by tactic
Soo LuvMyArmyMan (I apologize if i spelled your name wrong), you made a statement about why us men at this site suck with relationships. Maybe you can give a detailed explanation of how a real MAN does his job in a relationship.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You can have a life and be married Metal... but it is not your life anymore... it is yours and your partner's. I have too many things that I wish to accomplish in my own personal life... I have no time to focus on a woman. In marriage... you are considering two people... possibly more. You cannot just do whatever you want anymore because you have other people to consider... I do not want to have to do that. By the time I marry (if there exists a woman crazy enough to marry me) I want to be able to completely focus on her and no secretly wish that I could be by myself to I can achieve a goal. So that is what I mean by "live" Metal. When you marry... your life is not your own anymore... and it should not be. Your life is shared (your's and your partner's) and you cannot just do things on a whim... and right now... I am pretty whimisical. I never said you cannot have a life whilst you are married (assumptions again) I am merely saying that your life is no longer completely your own.Matrix, what is your definition of "live" that can't be done within marriage? Who says you can't have a life and be married?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Coming from her netstalker?Originally posted by deeloo
lol whatever.. i write 1 liners, yet u write essays that has over 2000 words.. who has more of a life.. LMAO.. lady please.. stop makin me laugh miss.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.