"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Inner Game part 1
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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Thanks!Ganondorf said:
Atom Smasher
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My intent is not to be argumentative, but it seems to me that giving in to fear is surrendering to emotion, and it is the proper application of rational thought that couteracts that emotion. It seems that you are exprerssing the opposite, if I'm understanding you correctly.
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Logical thought is useless in regards to emotion.Atom Smasher said:
Example: Logical man feels fear. He tries use reason to eliminate his fear. "I shouldn't be scared, it's not rational, I will be fine." The result?
I have seen many highly intelligent and logical men ruled by fear. In particular, fear of women. Fear of approaching, fear of conversation, fear of sex.
You cannot change the fear you feel, only your perception. That is why some people are thrilled with roller coaster rides, and some are terrified.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Atom Smasher said:
exactly what muscle guy said
fear is emotion, and emotion cannot be rationalized and deleted. it can only be channeled into something more positive.
It's just like a chick. You guys think you are all logical, but really, every human experiences emotions. it's what makes us tick. some do more than others, but that's beside the point
A Chick cannot rationalize herself into liking someone she doesn't like even though in her "logical mind" she should. Likewise, you cannot logic yourself out of feeling afraid, sad, mad, ect. You should not fight how you feel, because that just makes things worse.
The difference between those who surrender to emotion and those who don't is that the people who don't surrender face theirs and except that they feel that way, and use it to there advantage by looking at things a different way
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Exactly!Ganondorf said:
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What crapola an arogant prick like you cant bench the barThe Muscle Guy said:
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Here you go loser.virginat40 said:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uhA_AebzNkg
Let's see a picture of you. Some ugly skinny nerd that takes it up the butt.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
The Muscle Guy
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No this thread is about perceiving negative emotions differently.real2 said:Tsk tsk. You shouldn't have responded to that remark
Isn't this whole thread about controlling your emotions?
Example:
Shy guy has fear of approaching a woman.
Change that perception of fear. Focus your nervous energy into excitement so you can look forward to talking to a girl.
Not responding has nothing to do with controlling your emotions, it's passivity. Your comment shows your weakness. And leave your superior tone at the door. I know looking down on people makes you feel good, that's just a sign of your low self esteem. Tsk, tsk, my @$$
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Thanks!Alle_Gory said:
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HAHAHA!virginat41 said:
Let me know when you come by Chicago.
HAHAHAHA!
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.