"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Inner Game part 1

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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My intent is not to be argumentative, but it seems to me that giving in to fear is surrendering to emotion, and it is the proper application of rational thought that couteracts that emotion. It seems that you are exprerssing the opposite, if I'm understanding you correctly.
 
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Atom Smasher said:
My intent is not to be argumentative, but it seems to me that giving in to fear is surrendering to emotion, and it is the proper application of rational thought that couteracts that emotion. It seems that you are exprerssing the opposite, if I'm understanding you correctly.
Logical thought is useless in regards to emotion.

Example: Logical man feels fear. He tries use reason to eliminate his fear. "I shouldn't be scared, it's not rational, I will be fine." The result?

I have seen many highly intelligent and logical men ruled by fear. In particular, fear of women. Fear of approaching, fear of conversation, fear of sex.

You cannot change the fear you feel, only your perception. That is why some people are thrilled with roller coaster rides, and some are terrified.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Atom Smasher said:
My intent is not to be argumentative, but it seems to me that giving in to fear is surrendering to emotion, and it is the proper application of rational thought that couteracts that emotion. It seems that you are exprerssing the opposite, if I'm understanding you correctly.

exactly what muscle guy said

fear is emotion, and emotion cannot be rationalized and deleted. it can only be channeled into something more positive.

It's just like a chick. You guys think you are all logical, but really, every human experiences emotions. it's what makes us tick. some do more than others, but that's beside the point

A Chick cannot rationalize herself into liking someone she doesn't like even though in her "logical mind" she should. Likewise, you cannot logic yourself out of feeling afraid, sad, mad, ect. You should not fight how you feel, because that just makes things worse.

The difference between those who surrender to emotion and those who don't is that the people who don't surrender face theirs and except that they feel that way, and use it to there advantage by looking at things a different way
 
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Ganondorf said:
exactly what muscle guy said

fear is emotion, and emotion cannot be rationalized and deleted. it can only be channeled into something more positive.

It's just like a chick. You guys think you are all logical, but really, every human experiences emotions. it's what makes us tick. some do more than others, but that's beside the point

A Chick cannot rationalize herself into liking someone she doesn't like even though in her "logical mind" she should. Likewise, you cannot logic yourself out of feeling afraid, sad, mad, ect. You should not fight how you feel, because that just makes things worse.

The difference between those who surrender to emotion and those who don't is that the people who don't surrender face theirs and except that they feel that way, and use it to there advantage by looking at things a different way
Exactly!
 

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real2 said:
Tsk tsk. You shouldn't have responded to that remark :down:

Isn't this whole thread about controlling your emotions? :up:
He said in the video that he has an anger problem
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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real2 said:
Yep, but forum responses can always be meditated on prior to posting them.

You type up your post, look it over, read it a couple times, then... you say **** it, not worth it...

On the other hand, in person it can be a different story :yes:
yeah i agree with you, not sure what he was doing
 
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real2 said:
Tsk tsk. You shouldn't have responded to that remark :down:

Isn't this whole thread about controlling your emotions? :up:
No this thread is about perceiving negative emotions differently.

Example:
Shy guy has fear of approaching a woman.

Change that perception of fear. Focus your nervous energy into excitement so you can look forward to talking to a girl.


Not responding has nothing to do with controlling your emotions, it's passivity. Your comment shows your weakness. And leave your superior tone at the door. I know looking down on people makes you feel good, that's just a sign of your low self esteem. Tsk, tsk, my @$$
 

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Fantastic job, and thank you for taking the time to explain it!

Looking forward to Part 2.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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wait. Why was the Muscle guy Banned?

That miserable troll virginat41 is stull here??

what the hell?
 

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Wow another good poster banished from this forum. What the heck is going on here?
 
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