"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Inner Game part 1
- Thread starter The Muscle Guy
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
The Muscle Guy
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Thanks!Ganondorf said:
Atom Smasher
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My intent is not to be argumentative, but it seems to me that giving in to fear is surrendering to emotion, and it is the proper application of rational thought that couteracts that emotion. It seems that you are exprerssing the opposite, if I'm understanding you correctly.
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Logical thought is useless in regards to emotion.Atom Smasher said:
Example: Logical man feels fear. He tries use reason to eliminate his fear. "I shouldn't be scared, it's not rational, I will be fine." The result?
I have seen many highly intelligent and logical men ruled by fear. In particular, fear of women. Fear of approaching, fear of conversation, fear of sex.
You cannot change the fear you feel, only your perception. That is why some people are thrilled with roller coaster rides, and some are terrified.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Atom Smasher said:
exactly what muscle guy said
fear is emotion, and emotion cannot be rationalized and deleted. it can only be channeled into something more positive.
It's just like a chick. You guys think you are all logical, but really, every human experiences emotions. it's what makes us tick. some do more than others, but that's beside the point
A Chick cannot rationalize herself into liking someone she doesn't like even though in her "logical mind" she should. Likewise, you cannot logic yourself out of feeling afraid, sad, mad, ect. You should not fight how you feel, because that just makes things worse.
The difference between those who surrender to emotion and those who don't is that the people who don't surrender face theirs and except that they feel that way, and use it to there advantage by looking at things a different way
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Exactly!Ganondorf said:
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What crapola an arogant prick like you cant bench the barThe Muscle Guy said:
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Here you go loser.virginat40 said:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uhA_AebzNkg
Let's see a picture of you. Some ugly skinny nerd that takes it up the butt.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
The Muscle Guy
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No this thread is about perceiving negative emotions differently.real2 said:Tsk tsk. You shouldn't have responded to that remark
Isn't this whole thread about controlling your emotions?
Example:
Shy guy has fear of approaching a woman.
Change that perception of fear. Focus your nervous energy into excitement so you can look forward to talking to a girl.
Not responding has nothing to do with controlling your emotions, it's passivity. Your comment shows your weakness. And leave your superior tone at the door. I know looking down on people makes you feel good, that's just a sign of your low self esteem. Tsk, tsk, my @$$
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Thanks!Alle_Gory said:
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HAHAHA!virginat41 said:
Let me know when you come by Chicago.
HAHAHAHA!
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.