"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Inner Game part 1
- Thread starter The Muscle Guy
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Thanks!Ganondorf said:
Atom Smasher
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My intent is not to be argumentative, but it seems to me that giving in to fear is surrendering to emotion, and it is the proper application of rational thought that couteracts that emotion. It seems that you are exprerssing the opposite, if I'm understanding you correctly.
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Logical thought is useless in regards to emotion.Atom Smasher said:
Example: Logical man feels fear. He tries use reason to eliminate his fear. "I shouldn't be scared, it's not rational, I will be fine." The result?
I have seen many highly intelligent and logical men ruled by fear. In particular, fear of women. Fear of approaching, fear of conversation, fear of sex.
You cannot change the fear you feel, only your perception. That is why some people are thrilled with roller coaster rides, and some are terrified.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Atom Smasher said:
exactly what muscle guy said
fear is emotion, and emotion cannot be rationalized and deleted. it can only be channeled into something more positive.
It's just like a chick. You guys think you are all logical, but really, every human experiences emotions. it's what makes us tick. some do more than others, but that's beside the point
A Chick cannot rationalize herself into liking someone she doesn't like even though in her "logical mind" she should. Likewise, you cannot logic yourself out of feeling afraid, sad, mad, ect. You should not fight how you feel, because that just makes things worse.
The difference between those who surrender to emotion and those who don't is that the people who don't surrender face theirs and except that they feel that way, and use it to there advantage by looking at things a different way
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Exactly!Ganondorf said:
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What crapola an arogant prick like you cant bench the barThe Muscle Guy said:
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Here you go loser.virginat40 said:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uhA_AebzNkg
Let's see a picture of you. Some ugly skinny nerd that takes it up the butt.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
The Muscle Guy
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No this thread is about perceiving negative emotions differently.real2 said:Tsk tsk. You shouldn't have responded to that remark
Isn't this whole thread about controlling your emotions?
Example:
Shy guy has fear of approaching a woman.
Change that perception of fear. Focus your nervous energy into excitement so you can look forward to talking to a girl.
Not responding has nothing to do with controlling your emotions, it's passivity. Your comment shows your weakness. And leave your superior tone at the door. I know looking down on people makes you feel good, that's just a sign of your low self esteem. Tsk, tsk, my @$$
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Thanks!Alle_Gory said:
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HAHAHA!virginat41 said:
Let me know when you come by Chicago.
HAHAHAHA!
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.