"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Initiating dirty talk.

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Yesertday a girl I've been hanging out with texts me "we need to have sex tomorrow night ;)" To which I reply playfully.

This afternoon I texted her, "I can't wait to **** you tonight" hoping to get some fun, dirty talk going. She responded "I'm glad."

A let down. I was hoping for something more enthusiastic. I know this isn't a big deal in the grand scheme of things.
Do small things like this bother you guys?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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They do, girls with this **** are hot and cold. They want it at times and others they get turned off by it, most girls never want to feel like a "slut". Generally unless I know a girl likes that I take the stance that unless she clearly initiates the dirty talk I playfully work my way up to it and use more inuendo then straight I'm going to **** you. Which for me is diffiuclt because its a turn on to go straight to I want to ****, but warming them up is the best bet imo and gets better results without risking turning them off. I think overall with dating this is the best strategy until you know the person well and have a re pore that makes that type of thing fine.
 

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Yeah, it's annoying but just phase it off. Don't let it get to your head. All she wanted to do was get your attention.

A lot of girls do this just to test you. If you get needy or worried, you lose.

If you maintain your frame, you win.
 

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Thanks fellas. Just what I needed to hear.
 

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To be fair your dirty talk was kind of... lame. "I can't wait to f*ck you tonight" lol.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I used to do erotic stories with one girl. Got her fired up pretty quick. When she came over she would just jump me. No hello or lets ****.
 

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I was more or less going for the wow factor but I can see where you would think it's lame if there was no pretext to having sex (which there was yesterday).
 

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I also imagined that where the girl at effects her response to the dirty text as well.

With men, you could be taking a sh*t and get aroused seeing a dirty text from a woman.

But with women I wonder if, say they're grocery shopping, they don't want to reciprocate the mood.
 

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It works much better in person, whispering it in their ear while they still are fully clothed...they will be soaking wet by the time you get to the panties
 

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I was more or less going for the wow factor but I can see where you would think it's lame if there was no pretext to having sex (which there was yesterday).
I think what you were going for was something more authoritive and commanding like, "I'm going to f*ck your brains out tonight"

But what you said was, "I can't wait to f*ck you tonight" which is almost like you're trying to verify she's still interested
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I think what you were going for was something more authoritive and commanding like, "I'm going to f*ck your brains out tonight"

But what you said was, "I can't wait to f*ck you tonight" which is almost like you're trying to verify she's still interested
Exactly. Thanks Yewki. That's what my intention was. I had the feeling I said it the wrong way. Thanks for validating this, haha.
 

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For those interested - here's an update.

I showed up at her place an hour later then I said I would, simply because I wanted to.
She was in her pajamas, no makeup, "tired and feeling a little sick" (all signs of her not being in the mood to fvck). We laid in her bed for a while and talked. I teased her quite a bit, gently being an ass to her stories and comments. She jokingly said, "jeez you're being a jerk." Then she laid on me with the light on. I told her "hey, if you're tired, turn the light off and we can sleep." Not but a couple minutes later I was fvcking her brains out. I fvcked her two more times before we fell asleep. She loved it.

Thanks for the advice fellas.
 

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It works much better in person, whispering it in their ear while they still are fully clothed...they will be soaking wet by the time you get to the panties

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