"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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do you have a sedentary job? ie a sit down all day office type job?
Yes my job now is quite sedentary. When my job required a lot of walking I did not have as much trouble. Good point.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Ever try a basque cheesecake? Great tasting variation I’ll make sometimes. Super easy to make low-carb & high protein

Nope. I try to keep things simple. I'm also testing out some other recipes. I will report back after my findings through trial and error.
 

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Adding chia seeds to water (or almond/coconut milk) is also a great way to get the morning going. Just remember to soak the chia seeds for at least 20 minutes; longer is recommended.
I make something I call a protein paste with chia seeds, black sesame seeds, coconut milk and protein powder along with berries...

Essentially acts like a intestinal scrubber due to the type of gelatinous fiber it creates
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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It is so frustrating. I could lose weight so easily in my 20's and early 30's. Now that I am 40 it is so difficult to even lose 5 lbs. No matter how much I exercise I can not do it. I have to eat perfectly now and do high intensity cardio to even lose 5lbs. I hate it.
Diet.
 

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Yes my job now is quite sedentary. When my job required a lot of walking I did not have as much trouble. Good point.
You should budget yourself at least 30 minutes a day for a walk or jog on a treadmill. Is the sedentary lifestyle that's killing people.
 

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You should budget yourself at least 30 minutes a day for a walk or jog on a treadmill. Is the sedentary lifestyle that's killing people.
100%...the number one predictor of "any cause mortality" is the amount of time you spend seated during a day.

They found the shins have something called a Gravitostat, which essentially is the body's version of an internal scale that gives feedback to the body effecting metabolism, food intake, etc.

When you stay seated for long periods of time, the body believes it is lighter than it actually is which then slows metabolism and increases food intake to try and keep the body weight stable.

This has deleterious effects on virtually every bodily function over time.
 

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You should budget yourself at least 30 minutes a day for a walk or jog on a treadmill. Is the sedentary lifestyle that's killing people.
The thing is I work out a lot. I do 2 days a week Ju Jitsu and 2 days at the regular gym. The issue is that I eat too much and have a bad diet. You cant out work a bad diet.
 

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100%...the number one predictor of "any cause mortality" is the amount of time you spend seated during a day.

They found the shins have something called a Gravitostat, which essentially is the body's version of an internal scale that gives feedback to the body effecting metabolism, food intake, etc.

When you stay seated for long periods of time, the body believes it is lighter than it actually is which then slows metabolism and increases food intake to try and keep the body weight stable.

This has deleterious effects on virtually every bodily function over time.
Oh wow this is very interesting. This makes a lot of sense too.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Zazen meditation, yoga and tai chi mixed with brisk walking are good activities to have for weight loss. The meditations gets rid of the bloatedness anytime quickly
 

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Zazen meditation, yoga and tai chi mixed with brisk walking are good activities to have for weight loss. The meditations gets rid of the bloatedness anytime quickly
You can never out walk, out meditate or out train a bad diet.
 
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You can never out walk, out meditate or out train a bad diet.
yeah really, every overweight/fat person i've ever known seems to think they can continue eating cakes and ice cream multiple nights a week and just burn it off with exercise. it's mind boggling to me.

in my view exercise is for overall health, ie longevity and fitness, not weight management.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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That's a sign of insulin Resistance and low T levels
Also high cortisol. Those who work late at night, sit a lot, don't exercise. All of them have: low T, insulin resistance as you mentioned, high cortisol, and some issues with thyroid gland too since it handles metabolism.
 

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Any tips for calorie counting? I’ve written down a list of my main food items with all nutritional data for each one. Anyone else think menu planning is just too big of a math project?

I’ve calculated:
My ideal body weight
How many calories I can have daily
How many grams of protein I should have daily
How many grams of fat daily

I’m going crazy with all these numbers and creating a food plan. My guess is I’m rarely below my daily calorie requirements. The exercise I do is not strenuous but I’m consistent. But then I’m not very good about resting properly.

no kidding this was an easier ball game when I was in my 20’s. I think I eat too much and have a drinking problem when I get cravings and then get sloshed about once per week and that’s not helping much
 

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Any tips for calorie counting? I’ve written down a list of my main food items with all nutritional data for each one. Anyone else think menu planning is just too big of a math project?

I’ve calculated:
My ideal body weight
How many calories I can have daily
How many grams of protein I should have daily
How many grams of fat daily

I’m going crazy with all these numbers and creating a food plan. My guess is I’m rarely below my daily calorie requirements. The exercise I do is not strenuous but I’m consistent. But then I’m not very good about resting properly.

no kidding this was an easier ball game when I was in my 20’s. I think I eat too much and have a drinking problem when I get cravings and then get sloshed about once per week and that’s not helping much
Use MyFitnessPal

Start with 40-40-20 in terms of carbs/protein/fat

Put in your daily calorie count. I find the most accurate numbers are from this one here as long as you are being honest with your activity metrics:


There is nothing that hard about it. You come up with a daily meal plan, typically on Sunday for the entire week laying out all your meals and then you either prepare them ahead of time and portion them up or you make them simple enough that you can put them together in 5-10 mins during the day.

It's simple, the biggest challenge for most people is the self-discipline required to follow it.

Also, optimal sleep, getting enough steps during the day (body's best fat burner) and proper hydration are not optional if you are looking to drop fat.

And yes I said FAT. The goal should neev be to drop weight, the goal should be to drop body fat while preserving the most lean muscle mass possible.
 
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It is so frustrating. I could lose weight so easily in my 20's and early 30's. Now that I am 40 it is so difficult to even lose 5 lbs. No matter how much I exercise I can not do it. I have to eat perfectly now and do high intensity cardio to even lose 5lbs. I hate it.
My list:
1.No PUFA.
2. Healthy sugar + salt.
3. Eggs + lots of dairy
4. Exercising
5. Fruit juices!
My mother side is messed up in a lot of things: Acidity, bone issues, diabetes and what not.
Lately I have changed my diet so much. I feel more alive, more energetic, and no lethargy. Also, I sleep 8-10 hours.
 

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100%...the number one predictor of "any cause mortality" is the amount of time you spend seated during a day.

They found the shins have something called a Gravitostat, which essentially is the body's version of an internal scale that gives feedback to the body effecting metabolism, food intake, etc.

When you stay seated for long periods of time, the body believes it is lighter than it actually is which then slows metabolism and increases food intake to try and keep the body weight stable.

This has deleterious effects on virtually every bodily function over time.
True. Light jog + weight lifting + rope skipping + calisthenics(light) were my go to since my work forces me to be seated 8-10 hours per day.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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