"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Infinitely harder to lose weight

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do you have a sedentary job? ie a sit down all day office type job?
Yes my job now is quite sedentary. When my job required a lot of walking I did not have as much trouble. Good point.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Ever try a basque cheesecake? Great tasting variation I’ll make sometimes. Super easy to make low-carb & high protein

Nope. I try to keep things simple. I'm also testing out some other recipes. I will report back after my findings through trial and error.
 

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Adding chia seeds to water (or almond/coconut milk) is also a great way to get the morning going. Just remember to soak the chia seeds for at least 20 minutes; longer is recommended.
I make something I call a protein paste with chia seeds, black sesame seeds, coconut milk and protein powder along with berries...

Essentially acts like a intestinal scrubber due to the type of gelatinous fiber it creates
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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It is so frustrating. I could lose weight so easily in my 20's and early 30's. Now that I am 40 it is so difficult to even lose 5 lbs. No matter how much I exercise I can not do it. I have to eat perfectly now and do high intensity cardio to even lose 5lbs. I hate it.
Diet.
 

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Yes my job now is quite sedentary. When my job required a lot of walking I did not have as much trouble. Good point.
You should budget yourself at least 30 minutes a day for a walk or jog on a treadmill. Is the sedentary lifestyle that's killing people.
 

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You should budget yourself at least 30 minutes a day for a walk or jog on a treadmill. Is the sedentary lifestyle that's killing people.
100%...the number one predictor of "any cause mortality" is the amount of time you spend seated during a day.

They found the shins have something called a Gravitostat, which essentially is the body's version of an internal scale that gives feedback to the body effecting metabolism, food intake, etc.

When you stay seated for long periods of time, the body believes it is lighter than it actually is which then slows metabolism and increases food intake to try and keep the body weight stable.

This has deleterious effects on virtually every bodily function over time.
 

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You should budget yourself at least 30 minutes a day for a walk or jog on a treadmill. Is the sedentary lifestyle that's killing people.
The thing is I work out a lot. I do 2 days a week Ju Jitsu and 2 days at the regular gym. The issue is that I eat too much and have a bad diet. You cant out work a bad diet.
 

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100%...the number one predictor of "any cause mortality" is the amount of time you spend seated during a day.

They found the shins have something called a Gravitostat, which essentially is the body's version of an internal scale that gives feedback to the body effecting metabolism, food intake, etc.

When you stay seated for long periods of time, the body believes it is lighter than it actually is which then slows metabolism and increases food intake to try and keep the body weight stable.

This has deleterious effects on virtually every bodily function over time.
Oh wow this is very interesting. This makes a lot of sense too.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Zazen meditation, yoga and tai chi mixed with brisk walking are good activities to have for weight loss. The meditations gets rid of the bloatedness anytime quickly
 

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Zazen meditation, yoga and tai chi mixed with brisk walking are good activities to have for weight loss. The meditations gets rid of the bloatedness anytime quickly
You can never out walk, out meditate or out train a bad diet.
 
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You can never out walk, out meditate or out train a bad diet.
yeah really, every overweight/fat person i've ever known seems to think they can continue eating cakes and ice cream multiple nights a week and just burn it off with exercise. it's mind boggling to me.

in my view exercise is for overall health, ie longevity and fitness, not weight management.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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That's a sign of insulin Resistance and low T levels
Also high cortisol. Those who work late at night, sit a lot, don't exercise. All of them have: low T, insulin resistance as you mentioned, high cortisol, and some issues with thyroid gland too since it handles metabolism.
 

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Any tips for calorie counting? I’ve written down a list of my main food items with all nutritional data for each one. Anyone else think menu planning is just too big of a math project?

I’ve calculated:
My ideal body weight
How many calories I can have daily
How many grams of protein I should have daily
How many grams of fat daily

I’m going crazy with all these numbers and creating a food plan. My guess is I’m rarely below my daily calorie requirements. The exercise I do is not strenuous but I’m consistent. But then I’m not very good about resting properly.

no kidding this was an easier ball game when I was in my 20’s. I think I eat too much and have a drinking problem when I get cravings and then get sloshed about once per week and that’s not helping much
 

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Any tips for calorie counting? I’ve written down a list of my main food items with all nutritional data for each one. Anyone else think menu planning is just too big of a math project?

I’ve calculated:
My ideal body weight
How many calories I can have daily
How many grams of protein I should have daily
How many grams of fat daily

I’m going crazy with all these numbers and creating a food plan. My guess is I’m rarely below my daily calorie requirements. The exercise I do is not strenuous but I’m consistent. But then I’m not very good about resting properly.

no kidding this was an easier ball game when I was in my 20’s. I think I eat too much and have a drinking problem when I get cravings and then get sloshed about once per week and that’s not helping much
Use MyFitnessPal

Start with 40-40-20 in terms of carbs/protein/fat

Put in your daily calorie count. I find the most accurate numbers are from this one here as long as you are being honest with your activity metrics:


There is nothing that hard about it. You come up with a daily meal plan, typically on Sunday for the entire week laying out all your meals and then you either prepare them ahead of time and portion them up or you make them simple enough that you can put them together in 5-10 mins during the day.

It's simple, the biggest challenge for most people is the self-discipline required to follow it.

Also, optimal sleep, getting enough steps during the day (body's best fat burner) and proper hydration are not optional if you are looking to drop fat.

And yes I said FAT. The goal should neev be to drop weight, the goal should be to drop body fat while preserving the most lean muscle mass possible.
 
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It is so frustrating. I could lose weight so easily in my 20's and early 30's. Now that I am 40 it is so difficult to even lose 5 lbs. No matter how much I exercise I can not do it. I have to eat perfectly now and do high intensity cardio to even lose 5lbs. I hate it.
My list:
1.No PUFA.
2. Healthy sugar + salt.
3. Eggs + lots of dairy
4. Exercising
5. Fruit juices!
My mother side is messed up in a lot of things: Acidity, bone issues, diabetes and what not.
Lately I have changed my diet so much. I feel more alive, more energetic, and no lethargy. Also, I sleep 8-10 hours.
 

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100%...the number one predictor of "any cause mortality" is the amount of time you spend seated during a day.

They found the shins have something called a Gravitostat, which essentially is the body's version of an internal scale that gives feedback to the body effecting metabolism, food intake, etc.

When you stay seated for long periods of time, the body believes it is lighter than it actually is which then slows metabolism and increases food intake to try and keep the body weight stable.

This has deleterious effects on virtually every bodily function over time.
True. Light jog + weight lifting + rope skipping + calisthenics(light) were my go to since my work forces me to be seated 8-10 hours per day.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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