But what does this graft entail? You see I analyse for two reasons; to pinpoint my specific problems and because I find it fascinating. If I am given the advice of "manning up" or to simply "go to the gym" it is too general. I don't feel it is helpful, I could work those out with ease myself. I do see your point in that over analyzing specific situations does detract from social confidence in the moment of occurrence. However I feel personal reflection of ones emotional and mental activity is not harmful as identifying damaging thought processes will help to eradicate them and hence promote growth. This is essentially me attempting to deal with what exactly stops me from "manning up".DanZy said:Dude you're going to look back in a year's time and think to yourself "Wow, I really was a pvssy back then". You can analyse this as much as you like but in the end, everything comes down to you taking action. There's zero need to analyse this as much as you have, it won't help. You've recognised and admitted the problem, now get down to some hard graft and overcome it. It's not easy, it won't be quick but you'll be damn better for it.