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It feels like the world, especially mainstream media, is pushing a narrative that subtly encourages division. We're being nudged toward extreme individualism, toward a version of self-realization that often leaves us feeling alone, isolated, and disconnected from one another.
(This started with smartphones who gave each human being the possibilities to have their own little customizable world in their hands)


Instead of promoting dialogue, mutual understanding, and common ground, the cultural trend seems to celebrate the idea of being "strong with boundaries" to the point of cutting people off altogether. It's almost become fashionable to close ourselves off rather than open up.



What happened to the value of simply talking things through, being vulnerable, and finding a shared path with others, even when it's uncomfortable? Are we mistaking self-protection for maturity? And in doing so, are we losing something essential about being human

This is not only related to "man seducing a woman", but just as we see the perspective of modern man life.
Man life look really lonely these days.
 

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We're being nudged toward extreme individualism, toward a version of self-realization that often leaves us feeling alone, isolated, and disconnected from one another.
This is one of the actual reasons men are womanless.
 

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It feels like the world, especially mainstream media, is pushing a narrative that subtly encourages division. We're being nudged toward extreme individualism, toward a version of self-realization that often leaves us feeling alone, isolated, and disconnected from one another.
(This started with smartphones who gave each human being the possibilities to have their own little customizable world in their hands)


Instead of promoting dialogue, mutual understanding, and common ground, the cultural trend seems to celebrate the idea of being "strong with boundaries" to the point of cutting people off altogether. It's almost become fashionable to close ourselves off rather than open up.



What happened to the value of simply talking things through, being vulnerable, and finding a shared path with others, even when it's uncomfortable? Are we mistaking self-protection for maturity? And in doing so, are we losing something essential about being human

This is not only related to "man seducing a woman", but just as we see the perspective of modern man life.
Man life look really lonely these days.
Our society has become as anti-social and divided as I've ever seen it. There isn't much "social" about social media. Many young people lack social skills.

When will things change?...When society realizes too much social media is bad for your mental health. At one time smoking was accepted and we figured out that wasn't good for us. Marijuana/THC has been accepted in recent years and we are starting to see the negative effects of that. Some day you will see warning labels on social media explaining the effects of too much exposure.

I do see some positive changes that might help change the course we are on such as schools banning cell phones in the classroom, declining social media use across some platforms, and declining smartphone sales.
 

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It feels like the world, especially mainstream media, is pushing a narrative that subtly encourages division. We're being nudged toward extreme individualism, toward a version of self-realization that often leaves us feeling alone, isolated, and disconnected from one another.
(This started with smartphones who gave each human being the possibilities to have their own little customizable world in their hands)
You're conflating being independent with being socially isolated, and conflating secularism with nihilism.
 

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We're being nudged toward extreme individualism...
In Italy, perhaps. If tribalism and Group Think is your jam, come join us here in The US, where individualism started to precipitously decline in the last two years of The 90s, and has been getting continously flushed down the sh-t-er since 9/11

Modern day Americans trying to pretend that we're full-blooded proponents of individualism is more preposterous than North Koreans trying to masquerade as staunch anti-authoritarians
 
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If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.

Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.

This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

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You're conflating being independent with being socially isolated, and conflating secularism with nihilism.
Ok I think it's time to make a distinction then, can you add on the topic
@BaronOfHair Also explain the US perspective on this. Usually Italy, but also other countries, receive American "fashions" and "lifestyles", about 20 years after they were experienced in America.
 

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Our society has become as anti-social and divided as I've ever seen it.
It didnt just become, it was shaped like this on purpose for decades.

Everyone is played against each other and especially alltogether against christian straight white males.

Covid, climate change, mass migration, feminism, generational conflicts..... our societies are broken up on many fronts and the driving forces are not "we the people" but western governments and their puppet masters.

People are just to stupid to see the bigger picture when they start hating on their neighbour for not getting vaxed and not buying an e-car.

Divide and conquer
 

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It didnt just become, it was shaped like this on purpose for decades.

Everyone is played against each other and especially alltogether against christian straight white males.

Covid, climate change, mass migration, feminism, generational conflicts..... our societies are broken up on many fronts and the driving forces are not "we the people" but western governments and their puppet masters.

People are just to stupid to see the bigger picture when they start hating on their neighbour for not getting vaxed and not buying an e-car.

Divide and conquer
I don't disagree with your statements, however I doubt you live in the USA. There is less unity in this country than ever before in my era and its commonly discussed.
 

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There is less unity in this country than ever before in my era and its commonly discussed.
Tribalism has been more chic than usual since Post-9/11 America. Individualism has been more stigmatized than sobriety among the celebrity class
 

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The world we enjoyed recently as '14 https://reason.com/2014/03/23/nick-gillespie-why-is-the-establishment/ , during which


"...conservative and liberal columnists alike at The New York Times started flipping out over Millennials as "Generation Selfie." Their main beef? Younger folks distrust the government and organized religion and evince dangerous leves of "individualism"*

Might as well be not only a different decade, but a different PLANET than the Identity Politics-ridden era we've been embroiled in, from '16-the present. We began The 10s with more and more folks(ESPECIALLY the young) "vacating worn-out, pre-Civil War political brands such as the Democrats and Republicans", viewing such institutions "as relevant and dependable as your father's Oldsmobile", yet by time the decade was in it's later stage, the nation was once again split firmly down Blue and Red lines once again.If individualism truly is The 21st Century's goal, we've experienced a catatrophic reversal of fortune on said front


*Not coincidentally, those not-too-distant days were ones in which publicly rejecting the label "Feminist" https://www.theatlantic.com/culture/archive/2015/09/are-you-a-feminist/626389/ , rather than bending over backwards to "prove" one's "allyship" cred, was what was chic. Today, viewing everything through "the lens" of your gender, complexion, ethnicity, sexual orientation, etc etc has become derigeur
 
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Heavy D sang about this decades ago...

"In this life I strive for improvement...
Be your own guide, follow your own movement...

Don't clock anybody,
Let 'em all clock you.
Don't be down with anybody,
Let 'em all be down with you...

Stay self-managed, self-kept, self-taught.
Be your own man, don't be borrowed don't be bought..."
 

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Individualism is for suckers.
 

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People have become solipsistic; an inevitable consequence of modernity and individualistic liberalism. No shared or unifying worldview amongst the population, just a fragmented diversity of solipsism with all of the cognitive dissonance entailed.
 

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No shared or unifying worldview amongst the population...
On can find a way back to Germany under The 3rd Reich or set up residence in Saudi Arabia, if a society that operates under a unifying worldview, with next to no dissent, is what he's in the market for
 

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People have become solipsistic; an inevitable consequence of modernity and individualistic liberalism. No shared or unifying worldview amongst the population, just a fragmented diversity of solipsism with all of the cognitive dissonance entailed.
There is no such thing as a “unifying worldview,” and there never has been at any point in human history. Complex societies have always consisted of multiple groups with different goals, values, incentives, and constraints; even within the same population.

There has never been a complex society where this was not true. Not Ancient Greece. Not Ancient Rome. Not Medieval Europe under the Holy Roman Empire. Not even Nazi Germany under Hitler.

At best, what existed were enforced belief systems, upheld by threat of imprisonment, exile, or death. Apparent “unity” came from fear and suppresion, where their real opinions were not shared openly but in secretive "underground" meetings amongst each other where they plotted and planned against it.

What has changed in the modern era is not the amount of dissent, but its visibility. In many places, the cost of expressing disagreement has dropped dramatically, creating the illusion that fragmentation is new. In most places that is. Obviously we still have places like North Korea.

Even Ancient Greece, often romanticized as a cultural golden age, was a loose collection of city-states whose political systems, values, and priorities were fundamentally incompatible. Their successes emerged from temporary alliances and begrudging tolerance, not shared worldviews, and those arrangements repeatedly collapsed once the tradeoffs stopped working.

Even regimes often cited as examples of total ideological unity never actually achieved it. Nazi Germany, one of the most aggressively propagandized and coercive states in history, still contained widespread internal dissent.

Many Germans actively hid and protected Jews, often at enormous personal risk. Within the military and political elite itself, Hitler survived dozens of assassination and overthrow attempts, including Operation Valkyrie (my favorite Tom Cruise movie, btw, he was exceptional in it!), which briefly succeeded in disrupting the regime.

If a system built on mass surveillance, state terror, propaganda, systematic elimination of a shared "enemy" of the state, and the death penalty for dissent could not produce a truly “unified worldview,” the idea that such unity ever existed organically in freer societies is pretty much indefensible, and honestly nonsensical.

Human disagreement is not a failure of modernity. It is the default state of complex societies that's always existed and always will exist. Let's stop trying to write revisionist history.
 
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Human disagreement is not a failure of modernity. It is the default state of complex societies that's always existed and always will exist.
this is due to the fact that people are different. Some are smart... some are strong... some are emotional.. some are easily controlled. Some are rebellious Some are leaders... some are scientists.

However, like a beehive, everyone has a place. A body cannot function without the brain.. A body can not function without hands and feet to protect and feed the brain. skin.. hair... ALL help the body. the society, in their own way.


Liberals wants us to believe we are all "equal". we are not, but we are all valuable in our own way...
 

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There is no such thing as a “unifying worldview,” and there never has been at any point in human history. Complex societies have always consisted of multiple groups with different goals, values, incentives, and constraints; even within the same population.

There has never been a complex society where this was not true. Not Ancient Greece. Not Ancient Rome. Not Medieval Europe under the Holy Roman Empire. Not even Nazi Germany under Hitler.

At best, what existed were enforced belief systems, upheld by threat of imprisonment, exile, or death. Apparent “unity” came from fear and suppresion, where their real opinions were not shared openly but in secretive "underground" meetings amongst each other where they plotted and planned against it.

What has changed in the modern era is not the amount of dissent, but its visibility. In many places, the cost of expressing disagreement has dropped dramatically, creating the illusion that fragmentation is new. In most places that is. Obviously we still have places like North Korea.

Even Ancient Greece, often romanticized as a cultural golden age, was a loose collection of city-states whose political systems, values, and priorities were fundamentally incompatible. Their successes emerged from temporary alliances and begrudging tolerance, not shared worldviews, and those arrangements repeatedly collapsed once the tradeoffs stopped working.

Even regimes often cited as examples of total ideological unity never actually achieved it. Nazi Germany, one of the most aggressively propagandized and coercive states in history, still contained widespread internal dissent.

Many Germans actively hid and protected Jews, often at enormous personal risk. Within the military and political elite itself, Hitler survived dozens of assassination and overthrow attempts, including Operation Valkyrie (my favorite Tom Cruise movie, btw, he was exceptional in it!), which briefly succeeded in disrupting the regime.

If a system built on mass surveillance, state terror, propaganda, systematic elimination of a shared "enemy" of the state, and the death penalty for dissent could not produce a truly “unified worldview,” the idea that such unity ever existed organically in freer societies is pretty much indefensible, and honestly nonsensical.

Human disagreement is not a failure of modernity. It is the default state of complex societies that's always existed and always will exist. Let's stop trying to write revisionist history.
Of course, people have always disagreed, but I am speaking to foundational presuppositions, something higher than mundane political discourse or like matters. For example, the belief in God or gods necessitates a belief in the metaphysical and transcendental -- something greater than man itself and certainly greater than the individual. A shared ethnos and group history passed down from generation to generation also emphasizing something greater than the individual. I am not suggesting that the individual has no place among the many, but that there are consequences and that people today cannot escape the last few centuries of individualist 'framing.' To even question this is modern day heresy.

"I think therefore I am" reverses tradition by placing epistemology before metaphysics whilst appealing to many higher things merely taken for granted and yet simply taken as axiomatic. And later, an external metaphysical world and its truth is replaced by abstract mental categories of one's own mind.

Solipsism itself completely undermines truth and the pursuit and value of. Democracy, with its pros and cons, is inherently a revolutionary tool that promotes relativism since something can oscilate endlessly between being ethical or unethical, true or false. An overarching metanarrative regarding ethics does not exist like it used to, being that it has basically been replaced by subjective preferences without any need for justification. Also, consider that most people today are caught in the assumption that truth is arrived at through an ongoing dialectical process: one opinion conflicts with another, and a compromise is considered to the sensible thing to do; it may be a 'middleground fallacy' but it repeats ad infinitum.

We live in a world where things are commonly asserted to be no more than 'social constructs' as dictated by those in power. Power is often seen through a Marxist lens as being oppressive, where once hierarchy or levels of power was simply the norm. Gender being an expression of its biology is now wholly divorced from its 'fascist' biological 'binary' origin; you apparently are whatever you believe you are. Men are women are apparently no different, and everyone is equal. The idea that the 'nature' of a lion vs a bear vs a human is evident can now commonly give way to nominalism. The so-called 'fascist' boundaries of nature once upon a time discovered are dissolving more and more everyday with new 'understandings.'

But the cognitive dissonance that results is astounding.

If you consider Jordan Peterson as one of endless examples, a man whom I have mixed views on. He is critical of post-modernism, and rightfully so it is a destructive force without a solution that leads to chaos. His presuppositions primarily come from modernism, but he fails to realize that his modernism with its utopic idealism is what undid pre-modernism; yet, he looks to pre-modernism (ancient cultures, religion) for some kind of answer for the failings of modernism. His worldview is a syncretic buffet table of beliefs that are incoherently tied together, and often seen through unverifiable subjective psychoanalysis.

God is dead and we have killed him... We can selfishly rescue ourselves from nihilism with existentialism and liberate ourselves from any restraints, but are we truly better off worshipping ourselves? I can't help but think were are on a downward trend.
 
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Of course, people have always disagreed, but I am speaking to foundational presuppositions, something higher than mundane political discourse or like matters. For example, the belief in God or gods necessitates a belief in the metaphysical and transcendental -- something greater than man itself and certainly greater than the individual. A shared ethnos and group history passed down from generation to generation also emphasizing something greater than the individual. I am not suggesting that the individual has no place among the many, but that there are consequences and that people today cannot escape the last few centuries of individualist 'framing.' To even question this is modern day heresy.

"I think therefore I am" reverses tradition by placing epistemology before metaphysics whilst appealing to many higher things merely taken for granted and yet simply taken as axiomatic. And later, an external metaphysical world and its truth is replaced by abstract mental categories of one's own mind.

Solipsism itself completely undermines truth and the pursuit and value of. Democracy, with its pros and cons, is inherently a revolutionary tool that promotes relativism since something can oscilate endlessly between being ethical or unethical, true or false. An overarching metanarrative regarding ethics does not exist like it used to, being that it has basically been replaced by subjective preferences without any need for justification. Also, consider that most people today are caught in the assumption that truth is arrived at through an ongoing dialectical process: one opinion conflicts with another, and a compromise is considered to the sensible thing to do; it may be a 'middleground fallacy' but it repeats ad infinitum.

We live in a world where things are commonly asserted to be no more than 'social constructs' as dictated by those in power. Power is often seen through a Marxist lens as being oppressive, where once hierarchy or levels of power was simply the norm. Gender being an expression of its biology is now wholly divorced from its 'fascist' biological 'binary' origin; you apparently are whatever you believe you are. Men are women are apparently no different, and everyone is equal. The idea that the 'nature' of a lion vs a bear vs a human is evident can now commonly give way to nominalism. The so-called 'fascist' boundaries of nature once upon a time discovered are dissolving more and more everyday with new 'understandings.'

But the cognitive dissonance that results is astounding.

If you consider Jordan Peterson as one of endless examples, a man whom I have mixed views on. He is critical of post-modernism, and rightfully so it is a destructive force without a solution that leads to chaos. His presuppositions primarily come from modernism, but he fails to realize that his modernism with its utopic idealism is what undid pre-modernism; yet, he looks to pre-modernism (ancient cultures, religion) for some kind of answer for the failings of modernism. His worldview is a syncretic buffet table of beliefs that are incoherently tied together, and often seen through unverifiable subjective psychoanalysis.

God is dead and we have killed him... We can selfishly rescue ourselves from nihilism with existentialism and liberate ourselves from any restraints, but are we truly better off worshipping ourselves? I can't help but think were are on a downward trend.
Ok, so now you’ve moved the goalposts quite convenienly. We started with a historical assertion that societies once possessed a “unifying worldview,” and that claim does not survive contact with history. It was DOA.

Trying to recast it as “shared metaphysical presuppositions” does not fix the problem, because belief in transcendence has never implied agreement about truth, ethics, authority, or meaning.

Theological history is overwhelmingly a history of disagreement: schisms, heresies, wars, political maneuvering, sectarian conflict, reformations, and dissent driven underground by force. The Papal State itself functioned for centuries as a territorial power, maintaining standing armies and waging wars to acquire land, resources, and consolidate influence through alliances. Popes sanctioned violence, political assassinations, and coercion in the service of power, wealth and control of resources rather than unity.

Papal offices were also frequently shaped by elite financial and political interests, with powerful banking families such as the Medici exerting decisive influence over papal selection and policy, including bribing Cardinals to select the Pope they wanted that was either a family member or a close ally that would continue their banking relationship. This happened multiple times and is not a historical aberration; it is evidence that religion often operated as a governing and control mechanism, not as a source of shared moral consensus.

What you describe as unity was not consensus but enforced orthodoxy. When deviation is punished, silence looks like agreement, but the existence of secret worship, underground movements, and repeated religious fractures shows disagreement was always present.

Are you seriously trying to claim that people would speak out and disagree just as much today if they knew punishment for this was being burned at the stake, crucification, or various other methods of torture like it was back then?

Isn’t it enough to note that many of the most brutal torture techniques ever devised were used to enforce religious orthodoxy and compel denunciation of “heretical” beliefs? That history alone makes clear that apparent unity came not from shared conviction, but from fear of extreme punishment. The argument that humanity was somehow "unified" under religion back in the day seems absurd when you realize the lengths they had to go through to create this facade.

And let's not even get into why the Church of England exists or was created in the first place, shall we?

Disagreement is also not solipsism, and pluralism is not relativism. Democracy is not a theory of truth; it is a governance mechanism for societies that lack moral unanimity, which they always have.

Appeals to pre-modern metaphysical certainty confuse unquestioned authority with coherence. Ethics were never governed by a single metanarrative; competing moral frameworks have always existed, with one temporarily dominant through power, whether it was just "flexed" to gain adherence or actually used to force it.

Religion historically functioned as a powerful system of social control, producing order and compliance, not genuine unity, while structurally dividing people into in-groups and out-groups: The saved vs. the damned, the true believers vs. the infidels, the God-fearing people vs. the wicked and evil, etc.

What has changed is not that people stopped believing in higher things, but that fewer institutions can silence competing interpretations and still call the result “unity.” Human disagreement is not a failure of modernity; it is the default state of complex societies.
 
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God is dead and we have killed him... We can selfishly rescue ourselves from nihilism with existentialism and liberate ourselves from any restraints, but are we truly better off worshipping ourselves? I can't help but think were are on a downward trend.
you are thinking inside the box. Open your mind to new ideas - eastern philosophy in particular some of which does away with both God and nihilism or at least put less emphasis on them. The world is more than Christianity or nihilism. It's a strawman argument.
 

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@Aguirre "...but are we truly better off worshipping ourselves?"

The "God" most humans worship has a curious habit of regurgitating all the talking points we ourselves have spent eons mistaking for incontrovertible Truth. We've BEEN "worshipping ourselves", since at least the beginning of recorded history


"I can't help but think were are on a downward trend"

Well, I'm not a big fan of the turn towards Identity Politcs and Censoriousness that The Anglosphere has taken, over the last decade... THAT though has been by the byproduct of Tribalism once again becoming hip, while individualism has once again been declared heretical by the majority of our opinion makers
 
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