“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Indecisive boss stalling career

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I have an indecisive boss. His lack of assertiveness is going to stall my career. He has had a relatively slow growth and if he doesnt grow faster the entire team stalls under him.

I guess my only option is to leave and look for another job, which sucks cause I actually like the place I'm at currently and barely been here for 3 years.
 

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yep. You are worth more to an outside company than where oyu are at. It's a proven fact.
 

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Then it's time to sharpen up the resume.

As a software engineer I switch jobs regularly, every one to two years.
 

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Look before you leave. Generally speaking, there are lots of valid reasons for businesses to be uncertain these days. Uncertain times bring risk, and Wall Street penalizes risk for a reason.
 

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Man the last thing the world needs is more software lol
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Look before you leave. Generally speaking, there are lots of valid reasons for businesses to be uncertain these days. Uncertain times bring risk, and Wall Street penalizes risk for a reason.
I can understand businesses being uncertain but here he cant stand by his decisions. I get it that if youre wrong then you need to change opinions etc.

That and the boss isnt as ambitious, aggressive or assertive. Cant say no keeps taking on more than we can handle and finally in the long run its going to be a weak foundation. He's such a pushover he did 300k worth of billables for free. That affects the team cause you're giving away outputs but it eats into our bonus pool. And no the 300k was by being bullied by the client and not to build relationship or credibility.

Is it common for prospective new jobs to contact your current supervisor? Do you give your supervisor a heads up that they'll be contacted, or do they question you about it after the fact, and try re-negotiating?
In my field they generally contact HR just as a formality to confirm basics such as titles and duration of employment.
 

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Is it common for prospective new jobs to contact your current supervisor? Do you give your supervisor a heads up that they'll be contacted, or do they question you about it after the fact, and try re-negotiating?
These days you can go through an interview process and references will only be contacted
after an offer has been offered/accepted.

When you hand in your notice/resignation, depending on your position/value, you may be counter offered. I always advise against accepting a counter offer, most employees that accept counter offers leave within 12 months anyway. You will also be first to get cut if any cuts are made. Sometimes it’s good to accept counter offers and use the new salary/package to get an increase in the next move.

Generally though it’s best to keep things moving.
 
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