in college, no party friends. can i make some by asking kids where the party is?

[cguy2004]

at the bus stop and then talking to them from there, or are most college kids already in their cliques and won't let anyone cruise to the party with them. does anyone here have any experiences with this on college campus?

 

[horaholic]

Nope. I was a full on gutter punk rocker, and still went to college parties. Even a couple frat parties, where I was kicked out very quickly. Just ask, and make a friend or two. Do you seriously have NO friends at all?
if thats the case, then you have othere issues to address,a nd we might be able to help.

 

[kush]

If you don't give off a weird, desperate vibe then making friends at college shouldn't be so hard. Talk to kids in your class, go to clubs, etc.

 

[everywomanshero]

I wouldn't worry too much about making friends to go to parties with. Maybe make some friends that you share an actual interest with or have in school group projects and stuff (they can turn you on to career prospects down the road since they'll be in your field). Outside of that I'd just worry about finding some cool chicks to hook up with. You don't need a bunch of guys standing around you to talk to chicks and if anything they are just going to slow you down and get in your way. Typical night of socializing for me is hanging out with 3 or 4 women and zero other guys lol

 

[Gray The Prince]

Are you a freshman, sophomore, junior or senior?

If ur a freshman or maybe even a sophomore, then you should be ok cause its not too late. Even if you are a junior or senior, you should still be ok, just talk to people and find out whats up.

 

[horaholic]

^Why is having no friends so hard to understand? All you have to do is move.

I've moved plenty of times. I use this opener: "Hey, I just moved here, and dont know anyone yet. Do you know of any parties or anything going on this weekend?"

I know, I know, its pretty advanced stuff. Im also not buying the 'clique' shyt. I've gone to plenty of college parties knowing almost noone, (and not even going to college either) and had a great time.

Point is: There is NOTHING wrong with asking people you dont know, where the party's at. If its college, and they're not total douchebags, they might even tell you to hop in there car and cruise with them.

Obviously, you need to calibrate who you talk to. If you're 'different,' avoid the snotty frat boy, and sorority types. talk to people like yourself.

I dont understand how you can be in college, and take classes with other people, and not get to know any of them. Like i said, If you're a hermit, and cant make friends, you need to address THAT problem first, before trying to go party. Im not being condescending here, and simply pointing out the facts. I've always been shy, and not very popular, and basically an outcast my whole life, but I never had a problem at least knowing a few people to party with.

 

[PapiChulo]

From what I've found over the last few years, the groups are already formed during freshman year and if you never got into one you're ****ed. Sorry

Here is actually right. You need something that brings people of common interest together instead.

I am having a hard time trying to kick out a desperate fella who is also a complete druggy douche that ended up in our drinking "clique" so-to-speak. He is 18, just moved here, extremely clingy and hits on everything that comes around, **** blocks and has no game, keeps free-loading, etc. I am a senior student in 4th year, and that's the kind of people I have to deal with.

Once you get passed 2nd year, you wont see any parties, believe me on that. No one has money, time, desire, etc. It's the young ones that try to loose their virginity and young hoes trying to "experience" college.

You want a party, go do it in a club or what not.

P.S. majority of students lead their lives like this, if you think that everybody else is having a good time- believe me- they don't, I ve been there, done that. Having visited a dorm/frat party just recently, I can tell it's piece of crap that is not worth a dime. Save your time and find people that are worth being with, that way you make friends not to just get drunk/high, but for the rest of your life.


I also beg you not to be the type I described above. Just be cool, and people will come.

 

[cguy2004]

yea im a junior unfortunately.

 

[PapiChulo]

This Christmas allusion is pretty accurate, come to think of it.

 

[playergamehater]

that was my college experience, it's much easier for girls to get invited to parties than it is for guys. Guys have to have the resources in order to get invited to parties(in this case, the right type of friends, know the right kind of people, have deep social connections), girls however, they just have to look good.

 

[Plinco]

that was my college experience, it's much easier for girls to get invited to parties than it is for guys. ..., girls however, they just have to look good.

Who gives a crap?! As a guy (and hopefully man, but that is another story) you should have more control over that. Besides, women love horny guys

People who party do not value it as much as people who do not. I know, I have been on both sides of the situation.

 

[Plinco]

From what I've found over the last few years, the groups are already formed during freshman year and if you never got into one you're ****ed. Sorry

false.

 

[Rex Man]

No friends and a Junior in college? The solution to your problem is simple.

Become involved with the school in some way. Whatever strikes your fancy, be it sports, music, marketing, whatever. There is simply no way to not make friends (connections). Joining a club or an organization where you will be around completely different people from class is also a good idea. You become inherently part of the group and thus become a node of valuable social information.

Doing this also gives an added social bonus. So as long as people find you charming and a joy to be around (men and women), your reputation will permeate cliques and groups, working overtime all around campus as you sleep or study.

Once you establish firm social connections and information sources, become a purveyor of information. Social information is valued but it is also free; so spread it around and you will be loved. You will be seen as someone in the know and your rep will spread like wildfire. People will come to you, carrying their own tidbits of information for you to accumulate and feed the cycle.

 

[BigJimbo]

All I know is I have made it past FACE CONTROL at Rai in Moscow and yet I was never invited to a college party in the Hell that is America. If you think I am bitter you have never (nor will you ever) get into Rai. There isn't a fat sorority girl in America (hb10 to you boys) that could get her azz into Rai. That I can promise you. Plus, in the Russian speaking world I can forever be a horny teenage boy with status. It is my God given right in some cultures.

Basically, you need to join a frat or wear those flip-flop things all day long. It helps if you are loud and like clothing that is a size or two too big for you. Seriously, American college life is its own world. Even in Canada girls that age are out at real clubs and bars. America is a land unto itself. A culture that is becoming more and more isolated.

 

[PapiChulo]

All I know is I have made it past FACE CONTROL at Rai in Moscow and yet I was never invited to a college party in the Hell that is America. If you think I am bitter you have never (nor will you ever) get into Rai. There isn't a fat sorority girl in America (hb10 to you boys) that could get her azz into Rai. That I can promise you. Plus, in the Russian speaking world I can forever be a horny teenage boy with status. It is my God given right in some cultures.

That's cause you are a foreigner, that pretty much already qualified you.


That place is pretty pimp.