"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
in college, no party friends. can i make some by asking kids where the party is?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
if thats the case, then you have othere issues to address,a nd we might be able to help.
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Gray The Prince
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If ur a freshman or maybe even a sophomore, then you should be ok cause its not too late. Even if you are a junior or senior, you should still be ok, just talk to people and find out whats up.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I've moved plenty of times. I use this opener: "Hey, I just moved here, and dont know anyone yet. Do you know of any parties or anything going on this weekend?"San Jose California said:
I know, I know, its pretty advanced stuff. Im also not buying the 'clique' shyt. I've gone to plenty of college parties knowing almost noone, (and not even going to college either) and had a great time.
Point is: There is NOTHING wrong with asking people you dont know, where the party's at. If its college, and they're not total douchebags, they might even tell you to hop in there car and cruise with them.
Obviously, you need to calibrate who you talk to. If you're 'different,' avoid the snotty frat boy, and sorority types. talk to people like yourself.
I dont understand how you can be in college, and take classes with other people, and not get to know any of them. Like i said, If you're a hermit, and cant make friends, you need to address THAT problem first, before trying to go party. Im not being condescending here, and simply pointing out the facts. I've always been shy, and not very popular, and basically an outcast my whole life, but I never had a problem at least knowing a few people to party with.
PapiChulo
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Kerpal said:From what I've found over the last few years, the groups are already formed during freshman year and if you never got into one you're ****ed. Sorry
Here is actually right. You need something that brings people of common interest together instead.
I am having a hard time trying to kick out a desperate fella who is also a complete druggy douche that ended up in our drinking "clique" so-to-speak. He is 18, just moved here, extremely clingy and hits on everything that comes around, **** blocks and has no game, keeps free-loading, etc. I am a senior student in 4th year, and that's the kind of people I have to deal with.
Once you get passed 2nd year, you wont see any parties, believe me on that. No one has money, time, desire, etc. It's the young ones that try to loose their virginity and young hoes trying to "experience" college.
You want a party, go do it in a club or what not.
P.S. majority of students lead their lives like this, if you think that everybody else is having a good time- believe me- they don't, I ve been there, done that. Having visited a dorm/frat party just recently, I can tell it's piece of crap that is not worth a dime. Save your time and find people that are worth being with, that way you make friends not to just get drunk/high, but for the rest of your life.
I also beg you not to be the type I described above. Just be cool, and people will come.
PapiChulo
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Plinco
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Who gives a crap?! As a guy (and hopefully man, but that is another story) you should have more control over that. Besides, women love horny guysplayergamehater said:
People who party do not value it as much as people who do not. I know, I have been on both sides of the situation.
Become involved with the school in some way. Whatever strikes your fancy, be it sports, music, marketing, whatever. There is simply no way to not make friends (connections). Joining a club or an organization where you will be around completely different people from class is also a good idea. You become inherently part of the group and thus become a node of valuable social information.
Doing this also gives an added social bonus. So as long as people find you charming and a joy to be around (men and women), your reputation will permeate cliques and groups, working overtime all around campus as you sleep or study.
Once you establish firm social connections and information sources, become a purveyor of information. Social information is valued but it is also free; so spread it around and you will be loved. You will be seen as someone in the know and your rep will spread like wildfire. People will come to you, carrying their own tidbits of information for you to accumulate and feed the cycle.
Basically, you need to join a frat or wear those flip-flop things all day long. It helps if you are loud and like clothing that is a size or two too big for you. Seriously, American college life is its own world. Even in Canada girls that age are out at real clubs and bars. America is a land unto itself. A culture that is becoming more and more isolated.
PapiChulo
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BigJimbo said:
That's cause you are a foreigner, that pretty much already qualified you.
That place is pretty pimp.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.