"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
in college, no party friends. can i make some by asking kids where the party is?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
if thats the case, then you have othere issues to address,a nd we might be able to help.
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Gray The Prince
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If ur a freshman or maybe even a sophomore, then you should be ok cause its not too late. Even if you are a junior or senior, you should still be ok, just talk to people and find out whats up.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I've moved plenty of times. I use this opener: "Hey, I just moved here, and dont know anyone yet. Do you know of any parties or anything going on this weekend?"San Jose California said:
I know, I know, its pretty advanced stuff. Im also not buying the 'clique' shyt. I've gone to plenty of college parties knowing almost noone, (and not even going to college either) and had a great time.
Point is: There is NOTHING wrong with asking people you dont know, where the party's at. If its college, and they're not total douchebags, they might even tell you to hop in there car and cruise with them.
Obviously, you need to calibrate who you talk to. If you're 'different,' avoid the snotty frat boy, and sorority types. talk to people like yourself.
I dont understand how you can be in college, and take classes with other people, and not get to know any of them. Like i said, If you're a hermit, and cant make friends, you need to address THAT problem first, before trying to go party. Im not being condescending here, and simply pointing out the facts. I've always been shy, and not very popular, and basically an outcast my whole life, but I never had a problem at least knowing a few people to party with.
PapiChulo
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Kerpal said:From what I've found over the last few years, the groups are already formed during freshman year and if you never got into one you're ****ed. Sorry
Here is actually right. You need something that brings people of common interest together instead.
I am having a hard time trying to kick out a desperate fella who is also a complete druggy douche that ended up in our drinking "clique" so-to-speak. He is 18, just moved here, extremely clingy and hits on everything that comes around, **** blocks and has no game, keeps free-loading, etc. I am a senior student in 4th year, and that's the kind of people I have to deal with.
Once you get passed 2nd year, you wont see any parties, believe me on that. No one has money, time, desire, etc. It's the young ones that try to loose their virginity and young hoes trying to "experience" college.
You want a party, go do it in a club or what not.
P.S. majority of students lead their lives like this, if you think that everybody else is having a good time- believe me- they don't, I ve been there, done that. Having visited a dorm/frat party just recently, I can tell it's piece of crap that is not worth a dime. Save your time and find people that are worth being with, that way you make friends not to just get drunk/high, but for the rest of your life.
I also beg you not to be the type I described above. Just be cool, and people will come.
PapiChulo
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Plinco
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Who gives a crap?! As a guy (and hopefully man, but that is another story) you should have more control over that. Besides, women love horny guysplayergamehater said:
People who party do not value it as much as people who do not. I know, I have been on both sides of the situation.
Become involved with the school in some way. Whatever strikes your fancy, be it sports, music, marketing, whatever. There is simply no way to not make friends (connections). Joining a club or an organization where you will be around completely different people from class is also a good idea. You become inherently part of the group and thus become a node of valuable social information.
Doing this also gives an added social bonus. So as long as people find you charming and a joy to be around (men and women), your reputation will permeate cliques and groups, working overtime all around campus as you sleep or study.
Once you establish firm social connections and information sources, become a purveyor of information. Social information is valued but it is also free; so spread it around and you will be loved. You will be seen as someone in the know and your rep will spread like wildfire. People will come to you, carrying their own tidbits of information for you to accumulate and feed the cycle.
Basically, you need to join a frat or wear those flip-flop things all day long. It helps if you are loud and like clothing that is a size or two too big for you. Seriously, American college life is its own world. Even in Canada girls that age are out at real clubs and bars. America is a land unto itself. A culture that is becoming more and more isolated.
PapiChulo
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BigJimbo said:
That's cause you are a foreigner, that pretty much already qualified you.
That place is pretty pimp.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.