In a rut .... keep getting rejected

[t510]

Why should I even bother trying anymore?

Any advice on how to deal with this? My self esteem is in the gutter.

I've been getting rejected a lot lately...

 

[PlayHer Man]

There are two ways to get out of a rut:

1. Temporarily lower your standards to get the ball rolling.

2. Just keep trying.

The main advantage to the first option is it gets you spinning plates faster. Then you just level up to hotter and hotter women while you drop the uglier/older/fatter plates.

I would start out with cougars. They tend to be easier and play less games than younger girls who are below HB7.

 

[Mike32ct]

PHM is spot on, especially the cougar part.

I will add that rejections mean that you haven't met the RIGHT female(s) (for the level that you are currently at).

 

[YAboi]

you haven't met the right woman is all

 

[Mike32ct]

you haven't met the right woman is all

Yes. I had this discussion with older guy when I was say 25.

Mike25ct: I keep getting rejected all the time. They won't give me the right time of day.

OlderGuy: You haven't met the right one.

Mike25ct: You don't GET IT. I'm invisible at best and rejected and treated like krap at worst.

OlderGuy: You haven't met the right one.

Anyway, we went back and forth for 20 minutes, and I was getting quite frustrated. He kept saying the same thing. He wasn't LISTENING to me lol.

After seeing how some women react very differently than others, I finally saw that he was quite correct.

 

[SamTheHobit]

Keep trying.

I've gone from a hell if a slump to one number per week and only women I find attractive.
And this is just the start.

The problem with lowering standards in my case anyway I don't have the motivation to talk to unnatractive girls. Never mind make the effort to take them out somewhere.

Anyway it feels good to be back at that point where rejection feels fine.

 

[thatfeel]

Is my 49 y/o gf considered a cougar? lol

 

[YAboi]

at the same time OP you need to ease of when in the presence of a woman relax and give urself time to think of how to SLOWLY but surely seduce.

 

[Jariel]

This is a self-perpetuating cycle my friend and it happens to us all.

We have a few rejections or bad experiences with women, so we start to doubt ourselves. The more we doubt ourselves, the more we project our insecurity/negativity towards women, which causes them to reject us too.

This is why most guys experience an influx of interest and options when they're in a relationship and can't seem to get anything after a break up.

But once you recognise it for what it is, you start to realise that actually there's nothing wrong with you. If you just start to think positive and confidently, then you can turn this around.

I remember a couple of years ago going through a similar phase. I got rejected 4 times in a row and started to feel paranoid. I took a time out, got my head straight and my next date was all over me...and so were the following 4 dates I had. All of them lead to sex, all of them smoking hot.

 

[The Simple Man]

This is a self-perpetuating cycle my friend and it happens to us all.

We have a few rejections or bad experiences with women, so we start to doubt ourselves. The more we doubt ourselves, the more we project our insecurity/negativity towards women, which causes them to reject us too.

This is why most guys experience an influx of interest and options when they're in a relationship and can't seem to get anything after a break up.

But once you recognise it for what it is, you start to realise that actually there's nothing wrong with you. If you just start to think positive and confidently, then you can turn this around.

The funny thing about insecurity is that you keep seeing every behavior of women as rejection.

And when you are secure enough in yourself, you look back and realize that hardly any of them rejected you at all, it was you who rejected yourself.

However, when in doubt, just keep on fapping

 

[PlayHer Man]

The funny thing about insecurity is that you keep seeing every behavior of women as rejection.

And when you are secure enough in yourself, you look back and realize that hardly any of them rejected you at all, it was you who rejected yourself.

However, when in doubt, just keep on fapping

IMO if a woman won't sleep with you on YOUR TERMS she is rejecting you or at the very least --> Making you play by HER rules before she cooperates. This is unacceptable.

If you have to be a woman's beta b!tch to get her to cooperate and get sexual then it ain't worth it.

 

[_sideways_]

It's actually a positive....so no women want what u got to offer, then u don't need them. If ur ur best and they pass then it makes room for more. Then the truly confident, secure women will be out in the open. Women reject good guys all the time. They get a sick kick out if it. They know ur too good for them and try to knock u out of first place. It's similar to a job oppurtunity saying u are over qualified....alright ill go to a better company then. That's the mindset....and it never hurts to donate to the less fortunate by lowering ur standards. When I'm not at my peak I would love it for a hb to toss me a free one...

 

[The Simple Man]

IMO if a woman won't sleep with you on YOUR TERMS she is rejecting you or at the very least --> Making you play by HER rules before she cooperates. This is unacceptable.

If you have to be a woman's beta b!tch to get her to cooperate and get sexual then it ain't worth it.

If you see women as sex toy then yes, your opinion is right.

But if you see them as toy, then it is not necessary so.

Either way, you are still playing, and playing should be fun, right?

On the other hand, beta b!tches do not consider this is fun at all. They see it as a fvcking conquest, and when they win it, they try to protect it with their lives. Not to mention when they lose it.

While a DJ knows he is playing toys, and what do you do when the toys are not fun to play with anymore, you throw the piece of sh!t away and buy a new one.

 

[LiveFreeX]

Take a 6 month vacation to Thailand. Never worry about rejection again.

 

[_sideways_]

Take a 6 month vacation to Thailand. Never worry about rejection again.

U cracked me up....

 

[HyperAnalyze]

In America... It's tough. But the fact say if you can make it here, you can make it anywhere.

 

[t510]

I pretty much never drink and am not a fan or bars. And between work and working out I don't have much free time. Any topics or advice
On where to meet someone?

 

[JaegerPilot217]

Attend one of those boot camps

 

[Maximus Rex]

Keep campaigning until you get elected.

 

[JaegerPilot217]

Why should I even bother trying anymore?

Any advice on how to deal with this? My self esteem is in the gutter.

I've been getting rejected a lot lately...

Do you at least have some positive past experience with women OP?