"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
In a rut .... keep getting rejected
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
PlayHer Man
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1. Temporarily lower your standards to get the ball rolling.
2. Just keep trying.
The main advantage to the first option is it gets you spinning plates faster. Then you just level up to hotter and hotter women while you drop the uglier/older/fatter plates.
I would start out with cougars. They tend to be easier and play less games than younger girls who are below HB7.
Mike32ct
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I will add that rejections mean that you haven't met the RIGHT female(s) (for the level that you are currently at).
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Yes. I had this discussion with older guy when I was say 25.YAboi said:
Mike25ct: I keep getting rejected all the time. They won't give me the right time of day.
OlderGuy: You haven't met the right one.
Mike25ct: You don't GET IT. I'm invisible at best and rejected and treated like krap at worst.
OlderGuy: You haven't met the right one.
Anyway, we went back and forth for 20 minutes, and I was getting quite frustrated. He kept saying the same thing. He wasn't LISTENING to me lol.
After seeing how some women react very differently than others, I finally saw that he was quite correct.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
SamTheHobit
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I've gone from a hell if a slump to one number per week and only women I find attractive.
And this is just the start.
The problem with lowering standards in my case anyway I don't have the motivation to talk to unnatractive girls. Never mind make the effort to take them out somewhere.
Anyway it feels good to be back at that point where rejection feels fine.
We have a few rejections or bad experiences with women, so we start to doubt ourselves. The more we doubt ourselves, the more we project our insecurity/negativity towards women, which causes them to reject us too.
This is why most guys experience an influx of interest and options when they're in a relationship and can't seem to get anything after a break up.
But once you recognise it for what it is, you start to realise that actually there's nothing wrong with you. If you just start to think positive and confidently, then you can turn this around.
I remember a couple of years ago going through a similar phase. I got rejected 4 times in a row and started to feel paranoid. I took a time out, got my head straight and my next date was all over me...and so were the following 4 dates I had. All of them lead to sex, all of them smoking hot.
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The funny thing about insecurity is that you keep seeing every behavior of women as rejection.Jariel said:
And when you are secure enough in yourself, you look back and realize that hardly any of them rejected you at all, it was you who rejected yourself.
However, when in doubt, just keep on fapping
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
PlayHer Man
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IMO if a woman won't sleep with you on YOUR TERMS she is rejecting you or at the very least --> Making you play by HER rules before she cooperates. This is unacceptable.The Simple Man said:The funny thing about insecurity is that you keep seeing every behavior of women as rejection.
And when you are secure enough in yourself, you look back and realize that hardly any of them rejected you at all, it was you who rejected yourself.
However, when in doubt, just keep on fapping
If you have to be a woman's beta b!tch to get her to cooperate and get sexual then it ain't worth it.
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If you see women as sex toy then yes, your opinion is right.PlayHer Man said:
But if you see them as toy, then it is not necessary so.
Either way, you are still playing, and playing should be fun, right?
On the other hand, beta b!tches do not consider this is fun at all. They see it as a fvcking conquest, and when they win it, they try to protect it with their lives. Not to mention when they lose it.
While a DJ knows he is playing toys, and what do you do when the toys are not fun to play with anymore, you throw the piece of sh!t away and buy a new one.
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U cracked me up....LiveFreeX said:
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
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Do you at least have some positive past experience with women OP?t510 said:
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.