"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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In a rut .... keep getting rejected

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Why should I even bother trying anymore?

Any advice on how to deal with this? My self esteem is in the gutter.

I've been getting rejected a lot lately...
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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There are two ways to get out of a rut:

1. Temporarily lower your standards to get the ball rolling.

2. Just keep trying.

The main advantage to the first option is it gets you spinning plates faster. Then you just level up to hotter and hotter women while you drop the uglier/older/fatter plates.

I would start out with cougars. They tend to be easier and play less games than younger girls who are below HB7. :up:
 
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YAboi said:
you haven't met the right woman is all
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Yes. I had this discussion with older guy when I was say 25.

Mike25ct: I keep getting rejected all the time. They won't give me the right time of day.

OlderGuy: You haven't met the right one.

Mike25ct: You don't GET IT. I'm invisible at best and rejected and treated like krap at worst.

OlderGuy: You haven't met the right one.

Anyway, we went back and forth for 20 minutes, and I was getting quite frustrated. He kept saying the same thing. He wasn't LISTENING to me lol.

After seeing how some women react very differently than others, I finally saw that he was quite correct.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Keep trying.

I've gone from a hell if a slump to one number per week and only women I find attractive.
And this is just the start.

The problem with lowering standards in my case anyway I don't have the motivation to talk to unnatractive girls. Never mind make the effort to take them out somewhere.

Anyway it feels good to be back at that point where rejection feels fine.
 
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Is my 49 y/o gf considered a cougar? lol
 
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This is a self-perpetuating cycle my friend and it happens to us all.

We have a few rejections or bad experiences with women, so we start to doubt ourselves. The more we doubt ourselves, the more we project our insecurity/negativity towards women, which causes them to reject us too.

This is why most guys experience an influx of interest and options when they're in a relationship and can't seem to get anything after a break up.

But once you recognise it for what it is, you start to realise that actually there's nothing wrong with you. If you just start to think positive and confidently, then you can turn this around.

I remember a couple of years ago going through a similar phase. I got rejected 4 times in a row and started to feel paranoid. I took a time out, got my head straight and my next date was all over me...and so were the following 4 dates I had. All of them lead to sex, all of them smoking hot.
 
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Jariel said:
This is a self-perpetuating cycle my friend and it happens to us all.

We have a few rejections or bad experiences with women, so we start to doubt ourselves. The more we doubt ourselves, the more we project our insecurity/negativity towards women, which causes them to reject us too.

This is why most guys experience an influx of interest and options when they're in a relationship and can't seem to get anything after a break up.

But once you recognise it for what it is, you start to realise that actually there's nothing wrong with you. If you just start to think positive and confidently, then you can turn this around.
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The funny thing about insecurity is that you keep seeing every behavior of women as rejection.

And when you are secure enough in yourself, you look back and realize that hardly any of them rejected you at all, it was you who rejected yourself.

However, when in doubt, just keep on fapping :D
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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The Simple Man said:
The funny thing about insecurity is that you keep seeing every behavior of women as rejection.

And when you are secure enough in yourself, you look back and realize that hardly any of them rejected you at all, it was you who rejected yourself.

However, when in doubt, just keep on fapping :D
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IMO if a woman won't sleep with you on YOUR TERMS she is rejecting you or at the very least --> Making you play by HER rules before she cooperates. This is unacceptable.

If you have to be a woman's beta b!tch to get her to cooperate and get sexual then it ain't worth it.
 
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It's actually a positive....so no women want what u got to offer, then u don't need them. If ur ur best and they pass then it makes room for more. Then the truly confident, secure women will be out in the open. Women reject good guys all the time. They get a sick kick out if it. They know ur too good for them and try to knock u out of first place. It's similar to a job oppurtunity saying u are over qualified....alright ill go to a better company then. That's the mindset....and it never hurts to donate to the less fortunate by lowering ur standards. When I'm not at my peak I would love it for a hb to toss me a free one...
 
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PlayHer Man said:
IMO if a woman won't sleep with you on YOUR TERMS she is rejecting you or at the very least --> Making you play by HER rules before she cooperates. This is unacceptable.

If you have to be a woman's beta b!tch to get her to cooperate and get sexual then it ain't worth it.
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If you see women as sex toy then yes, your opinion is right.

But if you see them as toy, then it is not necessary so.

Either way, you are still playing, and playing should be fun, right? :D

On the other hand, beta b!tches do not consider this is fun at all. They see it as a fvcking conquest, and when they win it, they try to protect it with their lives. Not to mention when they lose it.

While a DJ knows he is playing toys, and what do you do when the toys are not fun to play with anymore, you throw the piece of sh!t away and buy a new one. :)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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In America... It's tough. But the fact say if you can make it here, you can make it anywhere.
 
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I pretty much never drink and am not a fan or bars. And between work and working out I don't have much free time. Any topics or advice
On where to meet someone?
 
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Keep campaigning until you get elected.
 
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t510 said:
Why should I even bother trying anymore?

Any advice on how to deal with this? My self esteem is in the gutter.

I've been getting rejected a lot lately...
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Do you at least have some positive past experience with women OP?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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