Title, I don't talk to my childhood friends due to personal issues, and honestly im just looking for advice on what I should do. Please feel free to let me know I am looking for any and all advice. Just want to make solid friends that i can hang with and become really close with.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
in 20s, struggling to make friends
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
crowolf
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I've been there.
Firstly, use this space and freedom to get to know yourself, builds skills, learn things, explore life. This has the highest ROI to your success, well-being, and everything else.
Secondly, leave the house, as often as you can. I had times when I didn't have many friends. What I found out years later is that it's quite simple - just don't stay home all the time, lol.
A massive cheatcode is to join sport groups, participate in other activities that interest you, and explore Facebook events (as well as MeetUp, Couchsurfing). Soon you will find likeminded people.
Firstly, use this space and freedom to get to know yourself, builds skills, learn things, explore life. This has the highest ROI to your success, well-being, and everything else.
Secondly, leave the house, as often as you can. I had times when I didn't have many friends. What I found out years later is that it's quite simple - just don't stay home all the time, lol.
A massive cheatcode is to join sport groups, participate in other activities that interest you, and explore Facebook events (as well as MeetUp, Couchsurfing). Soon you will find likeminded people.
BaronOfHair
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Bible_Belt
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Friendships are based on shared interests. Find what you like to do and meet people with that same interest.
sevbucmash
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Honestly, your brain needs stimulation and diversity of experience to gather enough experiences with people so you start recognizing patterns. That's how you become good with people.
You see, it's not something you fix or do, the thing that makes you sociable is the overall package.
This means you need to go have a life either through work, or other social activities, like an improv class or something else social.
Do the DJ Boot Camp. Approaching random strangers stimulates all the right brain cells and makes you good.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Travel memoir21
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Lol are you Pook posing as Baron of hair? That's something that dude would say.
BaronOfHair
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He and MANY others. That quite a few aspiring actresses/models branching into acting frequent these events is a perk of engaging in such activities
Same way one's prospects of disemboweling a live human being via homemade shiv(rather than settling for simply FANTASIZING about the-potential-joys of perpetrating said act)increase exponentially if, during you stretch at San Quentin, you associate with La Eme or The Aryan Brotherhood for protection/fellowship
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