Title, I don't talk to my childhood friends due to personal issues, and honestly im just looking for advice on what I should do. Please feel free to let me know I am looking for any and all advice. Just want to make solid friends that i can hang with and become really close with.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
in 20s, struggling to make friends
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
crowolf
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I've been there.
Firstly, use this space and freedom to get to know yourself, builds skills, learn things, explore life. This has the highest ROI to your success, well-being, and everything else.
Secondly, leave the house, as often as you can. I had times when I didn't have many friends. What I found out years later is that it's quite simple - just don't stay home all the time, lol.
A massive cheatcode is to join sport groups, participate in other activities that interest you, and explore Facebook events (as well as MeetUp, Couchsurfing). Soon you will find likeminded people.
Firstly, use this space and freedom to get to know yourself, builds skills, learn things, explore life. This has the highest ROI to your success, well-being, and everything else.
Secondly, leave the house, as often as you can. I had times when I didn't have many friends. What I found out years later is that it's quite simple - just don't stay home all the time, lol.
A massive cheatcode is to join sport groups, participate in other activities that interest you, and explore Facebook events (as well as MeetUp, Couchsurfing). Soon you will find likeminded people.
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Bible_Belt
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Friendships are based on shared interests. Find what you like to do and meet people with that same interest.
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Honestly, your brain needs stimulation and diversity of experience to gather enough experiences with people so you start recognizing patterns. That's how you become good with people.
You see, it's not something you fix or do, the thing that makes you sociable is the overall package.
This means you need to go have a life either through work, or other social activities, like an improv class or something else social.
Do the DJ Boot Camp. Approaching random strangers stimulates all the right brain cells and makes you good.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Travel memoir21
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Lol are you Pook posing as Baron of hair? That's something that dude would say.
BaronOfHair
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He and MANY others. That quite a few aspiring actresses/models branching into acting frequent these events is a perk of engaging in such activities
Same way one's prospects of disemboweling a live human being via homemade shiv(rather than settling for simply FANTASIZING about the-potential-joys of perpetrating said act)increase exponentially if, during you stretch at San Quentin, you associate with La Eme or The Aryan Brotherhood for protection/fellowship
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