Title, I don't talk to my childhood friends due to personal issues, and honestly im just looking for advice on what I should do. Please feel free to let me know I am looking for any and all advice. Just want to make solid friends that i can hang with and become really close with.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
in 20s, struggling to make friends
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
crowolf
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I've been there.
Firstly, use this space and freedom to get to know yourself, builds skills, learn things, explore life. This has the highest ROI to your success, well-being, and everything else.
Secondly, leave the house, as often as you can. I had times when I didn't have many friends. What I found out years later is that it's quite simple - just don't stay home all the time, lol.
A massive cheatcode is to join sport groups, participate in other activities that interest you, and explore Facebook events (as well as MeetUp, Couchsurfing). Soon you will find likeminded people.
Firstly, use this space and freedom to get to know yourself, builds skills, learn things, explore life. This has the highest ROI to your success, well-being, and everything else.
Secondly, leave the house, as often as you can. I had times when I didn't have many friends. What I found out years later is that it's quite simple - just don't stay home all the time, lol.
A massive cheatcode is to join sport groups, participate in other activities that interest you, and explore Facebook events (as well as MeetUp, Couchsurfing). Soon you will find likeminded people.
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Bible_Belt
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Friendships are based on shared interests. Find what you like to do and meet people with that same interest.
sevbucmash
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Honestly, your brain needs stimulation and diversity of experience to gather enough experiences with people so you start recognizing patterns. That's how you become good with people.
You see, it's not something you fix or do, the thing that makes you sociable is the overall package.
This means you need to go have a life either through work, or other social activities, like an improv class or something else social.
Do the DJ Boot Camp. Approaching random strangers stimulates all the right brain cells and makes you good.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Travel memoir21
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Lol are you Pook posing as Baron of hair? That's something that dude would say.
BaronOfHair
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He and MANY others. That quite a few aspiring actresses/models branching into acting frequent these events is a perk of engaging in such activities
Same way one's prospects of disemboweling a live human being via homemade shiv(rather than settling for simply FANTASIZING about the-potential-joys of perpetrating said act)increase exponentially if, during you stretch at San Quentin, you associate with La Eme or The Aryan Brotherhood for protection/fellowship
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