Title, I don't talk to my childhood friends due to personal issues, and honestly im just looking for advice on what I should do. Please feel free to let me know I am looking for any and all advice. Just want to make solid friends that i can hang with and become really close with.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
in 20s, struggling to make friends
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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I've been there.
Firstly, use this space and freedom to get to know yourself, builds skills, learn things, explore life. This has the highest ROI to your success, well-being, and everything else.
Secondly, leave the house, as often as you can. I had times when I didn't have many friends. What I found out years later is that it's quite simple - just don't stay home all the time, lol.
A massive cheatcode is to join sport groups, participate in other activities that interest you, and explore Facebook events (as well as MeetUp, Couchsurfing). Soon you will find likeminded people.
Firstly, use this space and freedom to get to know yourself, builds skills, learn things, explore life. This has the highest ROI to your success, well-being, and everything else.
Secondly, leave the house, as often as you can. I had times when I didn't have many friends. What I found out years later is that it's quite simple - just don't stay home all the time, lol.
A massive cheatcode is to join sport groups, participate in other activities that interest you, and explore Facebook events (as well as MeetUp, Couchsurfing). Soon you will find likeminded people.