"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Impregnating not the one

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How do you deal with going into pregnancy knowing you do not want to be with the women? I'm 32 and still have my life to live and oats to sow and still want to find as close to "the one" as I can.

Many of you have done it, I may have just done it. What advice can you give?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Get a good lawyer and start finding a way to make a lot more money, because the state is going to start taking your money from you.

Also, if there is a kid on the way, be in it's life and be a father so that it doesn't turn out to be another worthless dumbass.
 

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Do you want to be a father to the child in question? Like, would you stick around to help raise the kid?

If you don't want to be in the child's life, are you okay paying child support for 18 years? Do you have the financial means to do so even if you didn't want to be an active father?

Society, and many here, would probably tell you the responsible thing to do is raise the child you helped create, or at least financially support it, lest you be branded a 'deadbeat dad'.

Leaving morality and judgement out of it,
If you don't want to be a father and don't want to financially support the kid, you could just ghost the mom-to-be and hope she doesn't coming knocking down the line for some child support. Are you okay with doing such a thing?

If a woman has become pregnant with your child, you are responsible for that happening. No one forced you to put your d!ck inside her and there is always inherent risk of pregnancy when you have sex. If you are indeed in such a situation that you've mentioned, you ultimately placed yourself there with your decisions... You should know this obviously.

You may find that your personal desires going forward may conflict with what would weigh less heavily on your conscience. Keep that in mind when answering the clarifying questions I asked above.
 

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Do you want to be a father to the child in question? Like, would you stick around to help raise the kid?

If you don't want to be in the child's life, are you okay paying child support for 18 years? Do you have the financial means to do so even if you didn't want to be an active father?

Society, and many here, would probably tell you the responsible thing to do is raise the child you helped create, or at least financially support it, lest you be branded a 'deadbeat dad'.

Leaving morality and judgement out of it,
If you don't want to be a father and don't want to financially support the kid, you could just ghost the mom-to-be and hope she doesn't coming knocking down the line for some child support. Are you okay with doing such a thing?

If a woman has become pregnant with your child, you are responsible for that happening. No one forced you to put your d!ck inside her and there is always inherent risk of pregnancy when you have sex. If you are indeed in such a situation that you've mentioned, you ultimately placed yourself there with your decisions... You should know this obviously.

You may find that your personal desires going forward may conflict with what would weigh less heavily on your conscience. Keep that in mind when answering the clarifying questions I asked above.
I will be there for my children and provide that's a no brainer for me. It's more the relationship dynamics with having little to nothing to do with the woman.

I've been slaving away on my business (12-16 hours a day 6 days a week) this year and will be financially set in life (not including crypto gains). I'm ready to provide for myself and a child. If possible in 2-3 years I'd prefer to have full custody of any children as I trust myself and my parenting skills/morality over anyone else in this life.
 

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How do you deal with going into pregnancy knowing you do not want to be with the women? I'm 32 and still have my life to live and oats to sow and still want to find as close to "the one" as I can.

Many of you have done it, I may have just done it. What advice can you give?
Hopefully you can convince her to take the morning after pill
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I will be there for my children and provide that's a no brainer for me. It's more the relationship dynamics with having little to nothing to do with the woman.

I've been slaving away on my business (12-16 hours a day 6 days a week) this year and will be financially set in life (not including crypto gains). I'm ready to provide for myself and a child. If possible in 2-3 years I'd prefer to have full custody of any children as I trust myself and my parenting skills/morality over anyone else in this life.
Good on you brother.

I don’t have the necessary experience to give you any real wisdom here, but the questions I asked that you’ve just answered I’m sure will help others here provide you with some meaningful insight and advice.:up:
 

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I know a man who did this. It was bad for everyone. He wastes over a decade of his life and causes 2 births. The mother had it least worst in the end.

He had a multi-year relationship with a woman. They broke up. They get back together and within a few months she has an unplanned pregnancy. They end up getting married. His parents end up helping them out a little bit (both financially and with childcare) delaying the inevitable divorce when the unplanned child is 9 and there's a 2nd child. The parents' retirement plans are affected by this, as they end up choosing to live near the unplanned child. Without the unplanned child, there's a decent chance this guy's parents retire to a different place.

The mother monkey branches to another guy, suffering the fewest consequences of it all. The older of the two children (the unplanned one) has difficulty with his parental relationships and overall emotional problems. The younger of the two children never remembers a time where his parents were together. The man doesn't owe alimony and child support due to making less than the woman, but still has to deal with an unpleasant woman for the rest of his life. The man's parents' retirement years are affected.
 

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"Cool story bro... bit late for that" in her own words. She's seen the meal ticket and now I'm filled with rage.
Did you raw dog and nut in her or what? I have to admit I’m stupid sometimes with this as well.

Regardless, the child will bring you much happiness. I have a daughter and can tell you that despite wishing her mother could disappear at times (although not an altogether bad mother by any means - just a terrible partner), I wouldn’t trade my little girl for anything in the world.
 

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Did you raw dog and nut in her or what? I have to admit I’m stupid sometimes with this as well.

Regardless, the child will bring you much happiness. I have a daughter and can tell you that despite wishing her mother could disappear at times (although not an altogether bad mother by any means - just a terrible partner), I wouldn’t trade my little girl for anything in the world.
2 condoms split
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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It happened sunday 6 days ago and i told her she should have got one and she said its too late (only 5 days later) so I guess there was still a chance yesterday
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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It happened sunday 6 days ago and i told her she should have got one and she said its too late (only 5 days later) so I guess there was still a chance yesterday
She may not even be pregnant if it happened only 6 days ago. I had a scare when I was 19 and my gf was 2 weeks late on her period then got it when we were at a planned parenthood or similar office. Also, demand a DNA test even if she does end up pregnant, just to make sure it's yours.

Not sure how Amazon is to blame unless you bought some cheap Chinese off-brand to save money. If the condoms were name brand and within the expiration date, it's just bad luck. I've had them break too. I always wear Magnums. I'm a bit larger than the average guy but not John Holmes. They just fit better. Plus, if the condom isn't vice-grip tight and pushed to its limit, there's less chance of breaking.

Good luck with everything.
 

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She may not even be pregnant if it happened only 6 days ago. I had a scare when I was 19 and my gf was 2 weeks late on her period then got it when we were at a planned parenthood or similar office. Also, demand a DNA test even if she does end up pregnant, just to make sure it's yours.

Not sure how Amazon is to blame unless you bought some cheap Chinese off-brand to save money. If the condoms were name brand and within the expiration date, it's just bad luck. I've had them break too. I always wear Magnums. I'm a bit larger than the average guy but not John Holmes. They just fit better. Plus, if the condom isn't vice-grip tight and pushed to its limit, there's less chance of breaking.

Good luck with everything.
I bought Durex thin feel, in date and looked real. After breaking 2 I checked amazon to find a sea of negative reviews for the same reason, I've already refunded them.

PLEASANT UPDATE:

I got a call this morning "I have some goood newwwws" yes she came on her period. I remained emotionless because her willingness to get pregnant has confirmed I need to break all ties. I've known this woman for over 2 years and she's broody so to save myself the headache and stress, I'm trying to kill off the relationship.

Let this be a lesson to you all, it could be you next.
 

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As a member of the no kids crew, I would like to personally congratulate you, AND give you back your members only jacket

remember... they hate us, cuz they ain't us
 

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As a member of the no kids crew, I would like to personally congratulate you, AND give you back your members only jacket

remember... they hate us, cuz they ain't us
Haha! The worst part is I spent 8 days working 16 hours a day through pure fear and thinking I will have 2 additional mouths to provide for.

It feels good to be free again.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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