You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Dude, I just started week one and i'm still overcoming my chokes. I've never said "hi" just to total strangers before....Originally posted by I want a GiRl
The boot camp makes u become a dj if u do everything im currently in week 1 and ive talked to a total of one stranger out the moment
heres the link for boot camp : http://sucs.org/~nicholas/djb/djbc.pdf
Hit the quote button, next to "Edit" on the persons post, or copy what they wrote, hit the "Quote" button in the reply window, and paste it in there.Originally posted by I want a GiRl
how do u do that quote thing,
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
ok tyOriginally posted by Vincent
Hit the quote button, next to "Edit" on the persons post, or copy what they wrote, hit the "Quote" button in the reply window, and paste it in there.
also to do theface you gotta use a lower case p
Yeah, what Vincent said....lol. My confidence is increasing since I'm now able to say a lot more hi's and hello's. I'm still a little bit shy, but I have to break out of that shell someday.Originally posted by I want a GiRl
how do u do that quote thing, anyway boyfriend if ur to shy to say hi to a stranger practise smiling at them and holding eye contact and when ur ready and more confident just say hi!
ive been doing bootcamp for 1 day and im still quite shy so ive only spoken to 1 stranger but i think thats quite good coz i went out for 5 mins to do the exercisebut ill go out for like an hour tomo coz im busy today
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lol n1 nex but theres no crazy mofo in my schoolOriginally posted by Nex
If you can't get the nerves to cold approach on your own, just make friends with some crazy mofos and tell them you guys are going to approach at least two girls together per day or you'll slit his throat. This is what I've been doing.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You're a tool. Put your manhood on it next time. It'll rid the rest of us of a bad nameOriginally posted by I want a GiRl
lol, i allready did that and i lost £5
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.