Vantagepoint34
Master Don Juan
Most profiles on POF are ghost profiles. I'm having more success with Okcupid's nerdy girls are waaaaaay more responsive to your typical advances. Could be my city though. What do you guys think?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Atom Smasher said:I have found that every single girl I've either met or corresponded with online have been bat sh!t crazy. I'm convinced that there is something seriously wrong with any woman who needs to go online to find a man.
Normal women have a multi-dimensional social web that they have built over the years, and normally find a man through that web and settle down. I'm talking about women who are relatively well-adjusted.
The crazies don't have this social web and therefore must advertise their wares on these websites. I thought I was going to do great with online dating until I realized how messed up these women are.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Agreed. If a woman is online that means she is desperate or she has such high standards that she's nothing more than a pump and dump. Bottom of the barrel wh0res. It's much better meeting a woman IRL because the "weirdness" of meeting over the internet won't be there. If you meet a girl online and later text her, 90% of the time she'll disappear. If you meet her offline she's less likely to flake.Solomon said:+1 Rep
I have theory that women who use online dating are bottom of the barrel. Sure you have your single mother, fatties, ugg chick. But what about the hottie? if she just recently moved to the city then I would give her a pass. But most beautiful girls on Pof are either sloots who burned up their social circle cause they already banged all the desirable guys or two they're just on there for attention and validation
Also most women online are truly entitled and hideous a lot of women online I wouldn't bother with IRL it really makes you lower your standards unless you're a super duper good looking guys meeting women whom you're attracted to is tough
Women who want to pay a little more just to get better quality service generally are going to be better lookingAtom Smasher said:On another note, I do notice that at least for me, the match dot com girls are by far more physically attractive than on any other site.
Atom Smasher said:It's not just POF either. Even the "higher-end" paid sites yield the same results. Every single one of them is not relationship-worthy. I'm sure there might exist a needle in the haystack here & there, but I would say the number is statistically insignificant.
On another note, I do notice that at least for me, the match dot com girls are by far more physically attractive than on any other site. Every one that ends up in my mailbox is beautiful for some reason.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.