Vantagepoint34
Master Don Juan
Most profiles on POF are ghost profiles. I'm having more success with Okcupid's nerdy girls are waaaaaay more responsive to your typical advances. Could be my city though. What do you guys think?
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Atom Smasher said:I have found that every single girl I've either met or corresponded with online have been bat sh!t crazy. I'm convinced that there is something seriously wrong with any woman who needs to go online to find a man.
Normal women have a multi-dimensional social web that they have built over the years, and normally find a man through that web and settle down. I'm talking about women who are relatively well-adjusted.
The crazies don't have this social web and therefore must advertise their wares on these websites. I thought I was going to do great with online dating until I realized how messed up these women are.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Agreed. If a woman is online that means she is desperate or she has such high standards that she's nothing more than a pump and dump. Bottom of the barrel wh0res. It's much better meeting a woman IRL because the "weirdness" of meeting over the internet won't be there. If you meet a girl online and later text her, 90% of the time she'll disappear. If you meet her offline she's less likely to flake.Solomon said:+1 Rep
I have theory that women who use online dating are bottom of the barrel. Sure you have your single mother, fatties, ugg chick. But what about the hottie? if she just recently moved to the city then I would give her a pass. But most beautiful girls on Pof are either sloots who burned up their social circle cause they already banged all the desirable guys or two they're just on there for attention and validation
Also most women online are truly entitled and hideous a lot of women online I wouldn't bother with IRL it really makes you lower your standards unless you're a super duper good looking guys meeting women whom you're attracted to is tough
Women who want to pay a little more just to get better quality service generally are going to be better lookingAtom Smasher said:On another note, I do notice that at least for me, the match dot com girls are by far more physically attractive than on any other site.
Atom Smasher said:It's not just POF either. Even the "higher-end" paid sites yield the same results. Every single one of them is not relationship-worthy. I'm sure there might exist a needle in the haystack here & there, but I would say the number is statistically insignificant.
On another note, I do notice that at least for me, the match dot com girls are by far more physically attractive than on any other site. Every one that ends up in my mailbox is beautiful for some reason.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.