Vantagepoint34
Master Don Juan
Most profiles on POF are ghost profiles. I'm having more success with Okcupid's nerdy girls are waaaaaay more responsive to your typical advances. Could be my city though. What do you guys think?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I'm starting to notice a trend on POF
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
incognito42
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I think I don't understand what you're saying. There's actual ghosts using pof to get dates, or just chicks in white sheets with holes cut out for their eyes?
I've banged quite a few chicks on there but none were ghosts, that I know of.
I've banged quite a few chicks on there but none were ghosts, that I know of.
HalfAddict
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Dude OKC chicks are bigger attention *****s than the POF girls.
My favorite place to meet chicks is everywhere but the internet.
My favorite place to meet chicks is everywhere but the internet.
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
I have found that every single girl I've either met or corresponded with online have been bat sh!t crazy. I'm convinced that there is something seriously wrong with any woman who needs to go online to find a man.
Normal women have a multi-dimensional social web that they have built over the years, and normally find a man through that web and settle down. I'm talking about women who are relatively well-adjusted.
The crazies don't have this social web and therefore must advertise their wares on these websites. I thought I was going to do great with online dating until I realized how messed up these women are.
Normal women have a multi-dimensional social web that they have built over the years, and normally find a man through that web and settle down. I'm talking about women who are relatively well-adjusted.
The crazies don't have this social web and therefore must advertise their wares on these websites. I thought I was going to do great with online dating until I realized how messed up these women are.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
incognito42
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Sorry for the shock of it all, but you have indeed figured things out. Should seem obvious now. Why would a normal woman find her way there? In a new town and shy? Busy with kids and career? For some, yes. For most of the creatures, and by most I mean 98%, they are there because they have serious issues. Now it's up to you to decide if you want to use it for THE only thing it's good for.
Vantagepoint34
Master Don Juan
I believe the feminists are in control of POF. Any feedback on this?
Solomon
Master Don Juan
Atom Smasher said:
+1 Rep
I have theory that women who use online dating are bottom of the barrel. Sure you have your single mother, fatties, ugg chick. But what about the hottie? if she just recently moved to the city then I would give her a pass. But most beautiful girls on Pof are either sloots who burned up their social circle cause they already banged all the desirable guys or two they're just on there for attention and validation
Also most women online are truly entitled and hideous a lot of women online I wouldn't bother with IRL it really makes you lower your standards unless you're a super duper good looking guys meeting women whom you're attracted to is tough
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Agreed. If a woman is online that means she is desperate or she has such high standards that she's nothing more than a pump and dump. Bottom of the barrel wh0res. It's much better meeting a woman IRL because the "weirdness" of meeting over the internet won't be there. If you meet a girl online and later text her, 90% of the time she'll disappear. If you meet her offline she's less likely to flake.Solomon said:
HyperAnalyze
Don Juan
Every woman I have ever met on POF has been completely wonky.
Either total emotional baggage or some mental issues.
Maybe its where I live but going for these women is basically scraping the bottom of the barrel.
Either total emotional baggage or some mental issues.
Maybe its where I live but going for these women is basically scraping the bottom of the barrel.
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
It's not just POF either. Even the "higher-end" paid sites yield the same results. Every single one of them is not relationship-worthy. I'm sure there might exist a needle in the haystack here & there, but I would say the number is statistically insignificant.
On another note, I do notice that at least for me, the match dot com girls are by far more physically attractive than on any other site. Every one that ends up in my mailbox is beautiful for some reason.
On another note, I do notice that at least for me, the match dot com girls are by far more physically attractive than on any other site. Every one that ends up in my mailbox is beautiful for some reason.
HyperAnalyze
Don Juan
Women who want to pay a little more just to get better quality service generally are going to be better lookingAtom Smasher said:
versus
"Mannnn I ain't payin' fo' this @#$%!" - rachet girl with entitlement issues
HumbleNinja
Banned
Atom Smasher said:
Used Match years ago..There were hotter chicks but every one I met at the time was a nutcase. One even hotter in person told me she'd gotten banned from her local hospitals emergency take in as she kept thinking she was having heart attacks and got banned as she kept having anxiety attacks.
Another went berserk after ONE date that I didn't want to be her boyfriend and told her I'd met someone already in real life. Chick was hot but showed up on the first date with a cast on her foot because she broke her ankle or something playing badmitton on a lawn. Chick was kindof hyper..as if she needed ritalin or something..
Too many others who were screwed in the head. Though many in real life are the same..lol
On a side note I love seeing chicks profiles who openly "tell" on who they're replying to when they state things in their headlines and profiles like: "TIRED OF THE FAKES!!" "I don't trust people with ONE picture!" You know those are the morons who ONLY reply to the male model pics dudes are catfishing them with! It's hilarious!
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.