Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Darth said:I boycottt MySpace, Facebook, and text messaging. Starting now. What a load of bullsht.
From now on, I talk to girls in person only, or with phone and email. That's the only way to avoid misunderstandings...
Whilst this may be true I think social networking and text messaging are working on their level, it took me a while to realise that it's just an excuse for pure attention whoring, certainly with younger women anyway.DonGorgon said:LOL... you will still get the BS.. females BS everywhere they can...![]()
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I dont know why your so stressed about it. Myspace was awesome for me at one point. i had so many female friends and hooked up with a good amount lol. It was fun while it lasted but anyway, you just have to know what to say to get their attention and game on from there for the hookup. same concept in person anyway, approach and know what to say, once you hooked the bait then you have to keep at it.Darth said:I boycottt MySpace, Facebook, and text messaging. Starting now. What a load of bullsht.
From now on, I talk to girls in person only, or with phone and email. That's the only way to avoid misunderstandings...
I agree that myspace and facebook are both terrible routes for getting girls, but text messaging could work to your advantage just as long as you aren't text messaging her more than she's texting you. I've had awful experiences through phone and e-mail as well. If I were you I'd only stick to in person and limited phone. AIM wouldn't be too bad, but don't be online all the time obviously.Darth said:I boycottt MySpace, Facebook, and text messaging. Starting now. What a load of bullsht.
From now on, I talk to girls in person only, or with phone and email. That's the only way to avoid misunderstandings...
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Elaborate.Metaphysical said:It's soo easy it's not even funny, that is if you know how to do it right.
Agree 100%. There's no substitute for personal contact, and IMO things like Myspace and texting are just ways they can flake without having to face the music.nismo-4 said:You shouldn't be trusting internet dating anyway. There's no substitute for real life encounters. I stopped myspace and facebook for a good reason. I get girls interested in every way possible, then next thing you know the b**ch flakes!
In real life, you can have the look on your face where it says "flake on me and I'll grind you into the pavement." I've done this and it's helped get a yes or no thoroughly with no games.
Metaphysical said:Why? I've gotten at least 30 girls this year from online dating. It's soo easy it's not even funny, that is if you know how to do it right.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Metaphysical said:Why? I've gotten at least 30 girls this year from online dating. It's soo easy it's not even funny, that is if you know how to do it right.