You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Darth said:I boycottt MySpace, Facebook, and text messaging. Starting now. What a load of bullsht.
From now on, I talk to girls in person only, or with phone and email. That's the only way to avoid misunderstandings...
Whilst this may be true I think social networking and text messaging are working on their level, it took me a while to realise that it's just an excuse for pure attention whoring, certainly with younger women anyway.DonGorgon said:LOL... you will still get the BS.. females BS everywhere they can...![]()
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I dont know why your so stressed about it. Myspace was awesome for me at one point. i had so many female friends and hooked up with a good amount lol. It was fun while it lasted but anyway, you just have to know what to say to get their attention and game on from there for the hookup. same concept in person anyway, approach and know what to say, once you hooked the bait then you have to keep at it.Darth said:I boycottt MySpace, Facebook, and text messaging. Starting now. What a load of bullsht.
From now on, I talk to girls in person only, or with phone and email. That's the only way to avoid misunderstandings...
I agree that myspace and facebook are both terrible routes for getting girls, but text messaging could work to your advantage just as long as you aren't text messaging her more than she's texting you. I've had awful experiences through phone and e-mail as well. If I were you I'd only stick to in person and limited phone. AIM wouldn't be too bad, but don't be online all the time obviously.Darth said:I boycottt MySpace, Facebook, and text messaging. Starting now. What a load of bullsht.
From now on, I talk to girls in person only, or with phone and email. That's the only way to avoid misunderstandings...
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Elaborate.Metaphysical said:It's soo easy it's not even funny, that is if you know how to do it right.
Agree 100%. There's no substitute for personal contact, and IMO things like Myspace and texting are just ways they can flake without having to face the music.nismo-4 said:You shouldn't be trusting internet dating anyway. There's no substitute for real life encounters. I stopped myspace and facebook for a good reason. I get girls interested in every way possible, then next thing you know the b**ch flakes!
In real life, you can have the look on your face where it says "flake on me and I'll grind you into the pavement." I've done this and it's helped get a yes or no thoroughly with no games.
Metaphysical said:Why? I've gotten at least 30 girls this year from online dating. It's soo easy it's not even funny, that is if you know how to do it right.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Metaphysical said:Why? I've gotten at least 30 girls this year from online dating. It's soo easy it's not even funny, that is if you know how to do it right.