"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I'm sick of it..
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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Darth said:
LOL... you will still get the BS.. females BS everywhere they can...
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Whilst this may be true I think social networking and text messaging are working on their level, it took me a while to realise that it's just an excuse for pure attention whoring, certainly with younger women anyway.DonGorgon said:LOL... you will still get the BS.. females BS everywhere they can...
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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I dont know why your so stressed about it. Myspace was awesome for me at one point. i had so many female friends and hooked up with a good amount lol. It was fun while it lasted but anyway, you just have to know what to say to get their attention and game on from there for the hookup. same concept in person anyway, approach and know what to say, once you hooked the bait then you have to keep at it.Darth said:
I agree that myspace and facebook are both terrible routes for getting girls, but text messaging could work to your advantage just as long as you aren't text messaging her more than she's texting you. I've had awful experiences through phone and e-mail as well. If I were you I'd only stick to in person and limited phone. AIM wouldn't be too bad, but don't be online all the time obviously.Darth said:
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In real life, you can have the look on your face where it says "flake on me and I'll grind you into the pavement." I've done this and it's helped get a yes or no thoroughly with no games.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
If you can only see the negative then maybe you should be asking yourself why. Some people have alot of success off internet dating (as some have pointed out) etc and they're the ones who has the best attitude and learned how to.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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Metaphysical said:
Looks are ore critical on the internet cause you dont have the opportunity to show her yo how nice you really are in the inside... She just looks at ur pics and makes her choice on wether she will even read your "love letters" at all...
Point is have some great pictures!
most of you guys spend way too much time sending emails back and forth and get placed into the friend zone.
The way to remove them from power is to completely stop going to the movies and stop renting videos. Go to the library instead, or take up a hobby. I almost never go to the movies anymore. I'm not dropping ten bucks to see a piece of crap.