You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Honestly i can imagine a guy freaking out, getting intimidated and cancelling tbh. But unless this girl is socially awkward to the max/super paranoid or OP looks like a Greek god, I doubt he could illicit that reaction out of her
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You didn’t build enough comfort, didn’t sell yourself well enough. She offered some resistance and you collapsed.
And had he done that people would've still told him he screwed up by agreeing with her like a beta and opening himself up to be further interviewed rather than her having to prove herself to you or for not having the IDGAF attitude. I say this to illustrate that one can never win here, it's always our fault because the interwebs people say so lol
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
You see, this is exactly what I'm trying to avoid: proving myself worthy of her. B'cos from that point onward, ( rejecting my offer to meet up), all the power is in her hand, meeting up or not, is totally in her hand now. And I don't like to be in this position.
Can you explain why?
With those bolded words if I were a girl I'd get creeped out lol
