Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
you scare meOriginally posted by thatguy
LOL. Don't know anything about her except that she lives 5 minutes away from me. That's funny. Comments?
*Stands up to speak. Thinks better of it. Shakes head*Originally posted by thatguy
LOL. Don't know anything about her except that she lives 5 minutes away from me. That's funny. Comments?
Pack some mace or pepper spray.....Originally posted by thatguy
Comments?
bwaaahahaha. nah she's real.Originally posted by rgeere
Pack some mace or pepper spray.....
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
maybe he's into that sort of thingOriginally posted by gm8384
I think he meant bring some mace in case she has a pen!s
lol - i'd do this one!Originally posted by Samim
http://meetme.hotornot.com/r/?emid=NYKMHRS
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
dementia is pretty much on the money here, listen to him, he knows what he's talking about. It's one of those things where if you talk too much before you meet, then you not only run out of things to talk about without repeating conversations, but you also run the risk of the gal getting this image of you in her mind that you have to live up to, otherwise the wind will be taken out of her sails. I think there's obviously a good way to get around this, but it will involve making sure that you are no different in person than you are on the net and you have new stuff to talk about.Originally posted by dementia
ive met a couple girls from the net... first 2 i talked to for about a month or more and, met up and had not much to talk about and they where quite disasterous. (from my AFC life).
Next 2 i fvcked first date, 1 im about to fvck on the 3rd. Thing i found is u an get alot of chicks interested in u just from talkin online, but its important u meet them before u start running out of **** to talk about online (which is usually around 3 hrs) save it for the date. Usually they do wanna meet otherwise why talk?? Just ask and if they say no NEXT.
"Its **** in the bag" hahah thats funny cos its true.
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Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.