You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
you scare meOriginally posted by thatguy
LOL. Don't know anything about her except that she lives 5 minutes away from me. That's funny. Comments?
*Stands up to speak. Thinks better of it. Shakes head*Originally posted by thatguy
LOL. Don't know anything about her except that she lives 5 minutes away from me. That's funny. Comments?
Pack some mace or pepper spray.....Originally posted by thatguy
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bwaaahahaha. nah she's real.Originally posted by rgeere
Pack some mace or pepper spray.....
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
maybe he's into that sort of thingOriginally posted by gm8384
I think he meant bring some mace in case she has a pen!s
lol - i'd do this one!Originally posted by Samim
http://meetme.hotornot.com/r/?emid=NYKMHRS
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
dementia is pretty much on the money here, listen to him, he knows what he's talking about. It's one of those things where if you talk too much before you meet, then you not only run out of things to talk about without repeating conversations, but you also run the risk of the gal getting this image of you in her mind that you have to live up to, otherwise the wind will be taken out of her sails. I think there's obviously a good way to get around this, but it will involve making sure that you are no different in person than you are on the net and you have new stuff to talk about.Originally posted by dementia
ive met a couple girls from the net... first 2 i talked to for about a month or more and, met up and had not much to talk about and they where quite disasterous. (from my AFC life).
Next 2 i fvcked first date, 1 im about to fvck on the 3rd. Thing i found is u an get alot of chicks interested in u just from talkin online, but its important u meet them before u start running out of **** to talk about online (which is usually around 3 hrs) save it for the date. Usually they do wanna meet otherwise why talk?? Just ask and if they say no NEXT.
"Its **** in the bag" hahah thats funny cos its true.
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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.