kingxxxman
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I try to be ****y and funny but i don't think im getting either of those points across. Some girls just tell me that i'm mean but i can't tell if they're serious or what. Ideas?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I'm Mean?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
kingxxxman
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like if they say hi to me in the hallway, i'll pretend to ignore them then after i'll just laugh. I'll also like throw someone's item on the ground or something or just generally ignore people or something..?
That's not ****y or funny. That's just rude and annoying, especially if you laugh at someone for throwing their **** on the ground. ****y and funny is being playful with everyone around you. Basically being "mean" but with a friendly vibe. What you're doing doesn't have that vibe.
kingxxxman
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well the problem is that im not a very funny guy at all... how do i get to be fun? im more like really wound up....
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
kingxxxman
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interesting.... so even though if i am funny and stuff, should i be like sorta meanish or should i be pretty nice to the girls that im interested in?
kingxxxman
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def not a troll bro. im lookin to up my game next year. revamp myself for the next year.
@ DJ hero, basically assert yourself but be nice with your actions? haha.... thats going to need work. and theres a difference between being a alpha and c&f? blah this stuff is hard lol
@ DJ hero, basically assert yourself but be nice with your actions? haha.... thats going to need work. and theres a difference between being a alpha and c&f? blah this stuff is hard lol
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What impresses one girl might make another roll her eyes. Your best bet is to be yourself.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.