"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I'm gonna be a dad

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Congratulations bro! I never loved any women as much as my kid.

Just be aware that life WILL change dramatically and most propably your woman will change too.

You will have to adapt and face challenges you never faced before.

Good luck!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Congratulations bro! I never loved any women as much as my kid.

Just be aware that life WILL change dramatically and most propably your woman will change too.

You will have to adapt and face challenges you never faced before.

Good luck!
I hear you, at this point I couldn’t care less how she pans out. I finally have a why, a reason to live. I’m finally alive. I’ve just realised how unhappy I must have been these past 35 years. It’s quite sobering.
 

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Congratulations. Hate to be the serious guy but take advantage of the positive vibes and get your parenting plan ironed out with her and the. a lawyer and get it signed. God forbid it hits the fan. I don’t believe you’re married based on your recent writing.
 

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Congratulations. Hate to be the serious guy but take advantage of the positive vibes and get your parenting plan ironed out with her and the. a lawyer and get it signed. God forbid it hits the fan. I don’t believe you’re married based on your recent writing.
I'm bringing her into my business and making her a partner, I will make more with some accountability
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Congrats!

Hopefully you bank a lot of sleep now while you still can. You won't be getting much for the first year after the child is born. :lol:
 

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D@mn, bro! Congrats! Hopefully I can join you in parenthood someday.
 

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Congrats from the old lady! Super stoked for you!! It will be the biggest joy and most meaningful sacrifice you make in your life.

Love your child, teach your child, counsel your child. Be honest with your kids about yourself and about the world at large. Be transparent & tell them the tough truths.

When they are little and they fall down? Smile & say "You're Ok!" and guess what....they won't start shrieking over every boo boo. They'll pop up and smile & say "I'm Ok!" Tell them the shots are going to hurt, and then tell them to thank the doctor for the shots. Buy your kids the best food you can afford. Help them NOT to make mistakes they can't recover from (that result from decisions they make when they aren't with you)......

There are so many things. Really happy for you. It will be an adventure :)
 

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Congrats Murk! If it's a boy, you can name him Razor.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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And I couldn't be happier.

Test read 2-3 weeks pregnant.

I always thought I would be stressed and anxious (I get anxious the day before a business meeting) but I'm the most excited and happy I've ever been in my life.

I have only told my best friend who has 2 kids (my godchildren), I've spent so much time with them, they've given me so much joy and peace... I get to have that all for myself! I have no inclination to tell anyone else yet, except you faceless people who have put up with my ramblings for the past 7 years.

I just want to share it with you guys, yes still early days, good woman, good family, I'm stable. It feels like fate. I'd recently been dreaming about having a kid so I feel the Most High YHWH has blessed me.

Any advice from the fathers here?
Provide for your offspring the sort of environment James here


Enjoyed, rather than that which George got saddled with. Prioritize providing your child with the proficiencies necessary for him to survive and thrive on on his own
 
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Congrats, becoming a father is one of the most joyful and fulfilling moments in a mans life. It changed my life for the positive is so many ways. Interacting and playing with your child will be the best way to bond with them especially from the 0-12 years range.

My only advice to you and hope and pray the baby mom isn't crazy. If she is document everything because you are going to have a hell of time trying to get primary placement or full custody. I live in a liberal state and my sons mother has multiple drug and alcohol offenses and just recently a child neglect conviction and I still don't have full custody or even joint custody with primary placement. You do well to document any issues with the mother if you ever have to go down the road with court.
 

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Definitely rethink yourself on this.
I’ve decided to bring her in as HR manager/employee not a shareholder. Will give us both so much flexibility too (I already have a very chilled schedule).
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I’ve decided to bring her in as HR manager/employee not a shareholder
Nothing sexier than having an HR Manager for a baby mama/quite possibly wife. Except for perhaps undergoing open heart surgery, without receiving so much as a drop of anesthesia :eek: o_O
 

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Nothing sexier than having an HR Manager for a baby mama/quite possibly wife. Except for perhaps undergoing open heart surgery, without receiving so much as a drop of anesthesia :eek: o_O
She works in the city and I know how stressful that is after years of grinding there. Seems a no brainer to have her remote for now. Why are you against it, any advice/wisdom?
 

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She works in the city and I know how stressful that is after years of grinding there. Seems a no brainer to have her remote for now. Why are you against it, any advice/wisdom?
Not against anything. It's long been documented that HR and the sort of folks who tend to fill those roles(a large proportion of whom happen to be women)are the bane of many male employees working lives. As such, I'm wondering what makes you think it wise to marry a chick with an HR-esque disposition
 

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Not against anything. It's long been documented that HR and the sort of folks who tend to fill those roles(a large proportion of whom happen to be women)are the bane of many male employees working lives. As such, I'm wondering what makes you think it wise to marry a chick with an HR-esque disposition
It’s not about her disposition, it’s about incorporating her into my business which has a lot of flexibility, rather than working for another man, having to commute, baby sitter etc. This way, we can keep everything nice and tidy.
 

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Any advice from the fathers here?
Now is the season to remember: Ovens are meant for pot roasts and pizzas, not newborns or/and toddlers... Try like hell not leave your kiddo in the backseat of your Volvo in the middle of June
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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