"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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By that, I mean not desperate, not expecting anything, not wanting anything, no agenda, talking to them strictly to have fun and have a good conversation

Honestly, I think this has been one of my biggest downfalls in the past when I was around somebody I wanted. I wanted it to happen so bad that it was just obvious and I came across as desperate

IMO, best results happen with women when you least expect it. I'm just going to try to talk to hot women everywhere I can and make sure that I come across very genuine.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I would go one step beyond that and talk to everyone in proximity.

Young, old, fat, ugly, skinny, beautiful, mixed race, etc. Doesn't matter. We're all human.

When you remove your agenda, you'll focus more on feeling at ease around anyone. When you do find a target you like... you'll give that person a fair shot and you won't come across as needy because you're socially calibrated. Good luck...
 
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bigdave17 said:
I'm just going to try to talk to hot women everywhere I can and make sure that I come across very genuine.
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That may be the first smart thing you've said on this forum.
 
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resilient said:
I would go one step beyond that and talk to everyone in proximity.

Young, old, fat, ugly, skinny, beautiful, mixed race, etc. Doesn't matter. We're all human.

When you remove your agenda, you'll focus more on feeling at ease around anyone. When you do find a target you like... you'll give that person a fair shot and you won't come across as needy because you're socially calibrated. Good luck...
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i try to make small talk as much as I can already
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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zekko said:
That may be the first smart thing you've said on this forum.
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Umm, but he said "hot" women. He needs to talk to ALL women and have the same standards on each for acceptable conduct.
 
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Umm, but he said "hot" women. He needs to talk to ALL women and have the same standards on each for acceptable conduct.
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But he's said before he can talk to women he's not attracted to, and that they all praise him for having such a great personality. His issue is apparently with the girls he's actually attracted to.
 
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But he's said before he can talk to women he's not attracted to, and that they all praise him for having such a great personality. His issue is apparently with the girls he's actually attracted to.
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I think he's lying . I don't think he likes talking to ones he don't want .
 
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zekko said:
But he's said before he can talk to women he's not attracted to, and that they all praise him for having such a great personality. His issue is apparently with the girls he's actually attracted to.
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I had a nice conversation with a decent looking 27 year old blonde Saturday
I had a nice conversation with another decent looking 26 year old at a bar 2 weeks ago

both of them approached me

I've gotten much much better at talking to decent looking women. My problem is I don't like blondes/light skin women and the second chick was kinda dumb/trashy
 
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