"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I'm going to work hard to be natural around women

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By that, I mean not desperate, not expecting anything, not wanting anything, no agenda, talking to them strictly to have fun and have a good conversation

Honestly, I think this has been one of my biggest downfalls in the past when I was around somebody I wanted. I wanted it to happen so bad that it was just obvious and I came across as desperate

IMO, best results happen with women when you least expect it. I'm just going to try to talk to hot women everywhere I can and make sure that I come across very genuine.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I would go one step beyond that and talk to everyone in proximity.

Young, old, fat, ugly, skinny, beautiful, mixed race, etc. Doesn't matter. We're all human.

When you remove your agenda, you'll focus more on feeling at ease around anyone. When you do find a target you like... you'll give that person a fair shot and you won't come across as needy because you're socially calibrated. Good luck...
 
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bigdave17 said:
I'm just going to try to talk to hot women everywhere I can and make sure that I come across very genuine.
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That may be the first smart thing you've said on this forum.
 
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resilient said:
I would go one step beyond that and talk to everyone in proximity.

Young, old, fat, ugly, skinny, beautiful, mixed race, etc. Doesn't matter. We're all human.

When you remove your agenda, you'll focus more on feeling at ease around anyone. When you do find a target you like... you'll give that person a fair shot and you won't come across as needy because you're socially calibrated. Good luck...
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i try to make small talk as much as I can already
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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zekko said:
That may be the first smart thing you've said on this forum.
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Umm, but he said "hot" women. He needs to talk to ALL women and have the same standards on each for acceptable conduct.
 
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Umm, but he said "hot" women. He needs to talk to ALL women and have the same standards on each for acceptable conduct.
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But he's said before he can talk to women he's not attracted to, and that they all praise him for having such a great personality. His issue is apparently with the girls he's actually attracted to.
 
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zekko said:
But he's said before he can talk to women he's not attracted to, and that they all praise him for having such a great personality. His issue is apparently with the girls he's actually attracted to.
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I think he's lying . I don't think he likes talking to ones he don't want .
 
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zekko said:
But he's said before he can talk to women he's not attracted to, and that they all praise him for having such a great personality. His issue is apparently with the girls he's actually attracted to.
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I had a nice conversation with a decent looking 27 year old blonde Saturday
I had a nice conversation with another decent looking 26 year old at a bar 2 weeks ago

both of them approached me

I've gotten much much better at talking to decent looking women. My problem is I don't like blondes/light skin women and the second chick was kinda dumb/trashy
 
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