I'm going to work hard to be natural around women

[bigdave17]

By that, I mean not desperate, not expecting anything, not wanting anything, no agenda, talking to them strictly to have fun and have a good conversation

Honestly, I think this has been one of my biggest downfalls in the past when I was around somebody I wanted. I wanted it to happen so bad that it was just obvious and I came across as desperate

IMO, best results happen with women when you least expect it. I'm just going to try to talk to hot women everywhere I can and make sure that I come across very genuine.

 

[resilient]

I would go one step beyond that and talk to everyone in proximity.

Young, old, fat, ugly, skinny, beautiful, mixed race, etc. Doesn't matter. We're all human.

When you remove your agenda, you'll focus more on feeling at ease around anyone. When you do find a target you like... you'll give that person a fair shot and you won't come across as needy because you're socially calibrated. Good luck...

 

[Atom Smasher]

That's exactly how I fixed my approach anxiety.

Don't forget to include men in your day-to-day small-talk. That's an important aspect.

 

[zekko]

I'm just going to try to talk to hot women everywhere I can and make sure that I come across very genuine.

That may be the first smart thing you've said on this forum.

 

[bigdave17]

I would go one step beyond that and talk to everyone in proximity.

Young, old, fat, ugly, skinny, beautiful, mixed race, etc. Doesn't matter. We're all human.

When you remove your agenda, you'll focus more on feeling at ease around anyone. When you do find a target you like... you'll give that person a fair shot and you won't come across as needy because you're socially calibrated. Good luck...

i try to make small talk as much as I can already

 

[mrgoodstuff]

That may be the first smart thing you've said on this forum.

Umm, but he said "hot" women. He needs to talk to ALL women and have the same standards on each for acceptable conduct.

 

[zekko]

Umm, but he said "hot" women. He needs to talk to ALL women and have the same standards on each for acceptable conduct.

But he's said before he can talk to women he's not attracted to, and that they all praise him for having such a great personality. His issue is apparently with the girls he's actually attracted to.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

But he's said before he can talk to women he's not attracted to, and that they all praise him for having such a great personality. His issue is apparently with the girls he's actually attracted to.

I think he's lying . I don't think he likes talking to ones he don't want .

 

[bigdave17]

But he's said before he can talk to women he's not attracted to, and that they all praise him for having such a great personality. His issue is apparently with the girls he's actually attracted to.

I had a nice conversation with a decent looking 27 year old blonde Saturday
I had a nice conversation with another decent looking 26 year old at a bar 2 weeks ago

both of them approached me

I've gotten much much better at talking to decent looking women. My problem is I don't like blondes/light skin women and the second chick was kinda dumb/trashy