"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I'm going to change

itishe

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Today while at the gym I came upon a realization that never really hit me before. I'm unsatisfied with my life.

Here's how I plan on changing:

Cut negative people out of my life
Quit smoking pot
Put more focus on my music, bands, and bass playing
Meet more women
Become more spiritual
Be nicer to my family
Cut back on my drinking
Drink more water

As of now it feels like I'm just drifting day to day, getting high, not caring, just in general being some ******* I no longer want to be. Wish me luck folks.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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itishe said:
Here's how I plan on changing:


Meet more women
Become more spiritual
You can always join a cult, it will solve these two problems and maybe more.
 

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Good luck to you man! You can do it.


Is it just me, or do girls really not like people who smoke (tobacco products)

I'm not talking about kissing an ashtray, I'm talking about the image.

Anyone else think that?
 

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Glad you desire progress.

Becoming more spiritual, tho, sounds like sort of a vague goal. What did you mean by it?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Obsidian said:
Becoming more spiritual, tho, sounds like sort of a vague goal. What did you mean by it?

Was wondering the same thing myself.
 

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I'm not totally sure, when I feel more enlightened I'll tell you what I did. :)


I know a change like this is in store, because it's the truth when people say you really don't need game or lines to pick up chicks, you just gotta be happy with who you are and like your life and they'll come.
 

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itishe said:
I'm not totally sure, when I feel more enlightened I'll tell you what I did. :)


I know a change like this is in store, because it's the truth when people say you really don't need game or lines to pick up chicks, you just gotta be happy with who you are and like your life and they'll come.
s***, you are already more enlightened than 98% of the folks on here. maybe they should be asking you for advice.

if i knew how or what giving reps was i would go ahead and send some your way. however, i am clueless on the matter.
 

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i'd say it's 50/50 on the smoking tobacco products. there's girls who smoke and are extremely attractive and there's also girls who don't smoke that fall into the same catagory. if you smoke, it's a great bonus. nothing better than a good bang and then light one up together.

if you don't smoke then girls are not going to look attractive and smell pretty gross. us smokers can't smell our own stink. when i used to go to the bar i used to look for the ones on the dance floor that smoked because i always hated dating non-smokers because overtime i noticed the girls wouldn't mind me smoking through the infatuation period but complain after the puppydog love phase was over. i would love to quit someday again because you just can't have a smoke in peace anymore.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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