Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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I'm going to change

itishe

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Today while at the gym I came upon a realization that never really hit me before. I'm unsatisfied with my life.

Here's how I plan on changing:

Cut negative people out of my life
Quit smoking pot
Put more focus on my music, bands, and bass playing
Meet more women
Become more spiritual
Be nicer to my family
Cut back on my drinking
Drink more water

As of now it feels like I'm just drifting day to day, getting high, not caring, just in general being some ******* I no longer want to be. Wish me luck folks.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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itishe said:
Here's how I plan on changing:


Meet more women
Become more spiritual
You can always join a cult, it will solve these two problems and maybe more.
 

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Good luck to you man! You can do it.


Is it just me, or do girls really not like people who smoke (tobacco products)

I'm not talking about kissing an ashtray, I'm talking about the image.

Anyone else think that?
 

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Glad you desire progress.

Becoming more spiritual, tho, sounds like sort of a vague goal. What did you mean by it?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Obsidian said:
Becoming more spiritual, tho, sounds like sort of a vague goal. What did you mean by it?

Was wondering the same thing myself.
 

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I'm not totally sure, when I feel more enlightened I'll tell you what I did. :)


I know a change like this is in store, because it's the truth when people say you really don't need game or lines to pick up chicks, you just gotta be happy with who you are and like your life and they'll come.
 

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itishe said:
I'm not totally sure, when I feel more enlightened I'll tell you what I did. :)


I know a change like this is in store, because it's the truth when people say you really don't need game or lines to pick up chicks, you just gotta be happy with who you are and like your life and they'll come.
s***, you are already more enlightened than 98% of the folks on here. maybe they should be asking you for advice.

if i knew how or what giving reps was i would go ahead and send some your way. however, i am clueless on the matter.
 

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i'd say it's 50/50 on the smoking tobacco products. there's girls who smoke and are extremely attractive and there's also girls who don't smoke that fall into the same catagory. if you smoke, it's a great bonus. nothing better than a good bang and then light one up together.

if you don't smoke then girls are not going to look attractive and smell pretty gross. us smokers can't smell our own stink. when i used to go to the bar i used to look for the ones on the dance floor that smoked because i always hated dating non-smokers because overtime i noticed the girls wouldn't mind me smoking through the infatuation period but complain after the puppydog love phase was over. i would love to quit someday again because you just can't have a smoke in peace anymore.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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