"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I'm going to ask her out, but what if she can't?

sam21

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I'm gonna ask her out tmorrow, and the situation is this:

we get along great, she has no money this week... but I do so I'm going to invite her in case she tells me she's broke.

is that ok?

now, what if she really can't, and she says that next weekend may be fine...

or what if she doesn't say that next weekend is fine, should I say it?

I have no answers in that situation... I'm a little lost

tnx
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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DonJuanMonk

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Lost eh? Go ask, and if you get a no, who cares bud, you have a life, don't you?
 

white cloud 8

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dude....what is the big deal? so what if she can't go, can't u ask another girl to go?

BTW: don't put all your eggs in one basket (don't just focus on one girl, u should be out meeting other girls as well) :up:
 

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Originally posted by sam21
I'm gonna ask her out tmorrow, and the situation is this:

we get along great, she has no money this week... but I do so I'm going to invite her in case she tells me she's broke.

is that ok?

now, what if she really can't, and she says that next weekend may be fine...

or what if she doesn't say that next weekend is fine, should I say it?

I have no answers in that situation... I'm a little lost

tnx

Man you sound confused as hell-its like some guy said earlier in a post-ask her, if she says no you still have a life-so go ahead ask her.
"Turn fear into curiosity"
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

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